Danni - you'll read what i had to say in the other thread re your IVF journey, but i just wanted to add that although your family means well, they have absolutely no idea what you and Dale have been through, are going through and are about to go through, so, as Sushee said, don't listen to them. My mum tried to tell me the same thing when we spoke about AIH etc and i basically went from telling her everything that we were doing, to telling her nothing. It's the only way i've been able to cope with it all. About 2 years ago, before we started AC, my SIL (DH's sister who was 20 at the time) tried to tell me that we shouldn't have kids because there was no way that we could afford it and that we would ruin our lives by having one (this was after the m/c and she said that it was probably a good thing considering our financial situation). I lost the plot with her over that. Family don't get it unless they've been through it themselves, so if i were you, i would just not tell them anything....good luck babe, we're with you on this one....