Nooooooo! If POAS makes you feel crap - doing it every day will make you feel crapper! You don't need to know if the trigger is gone, you will find that out in two weeks whether or not you test! Make the decision based on how you want to feel every day.... I know my own mental health was better for not testing.... That's not the same for everyone, but you make the right decision for yourself, regardless of what others would do.
To be honest, i actually think, in my professional opinion (and I mean it!). It's not helpful for most people to obsess that much. I understand the rare few might benefit.... But I think for most people ... It doesn't help....
Just sit with the knowledge that our trigger worked.... It is ten days until it leaves the system.... Live in the illusion and try to enjoy it and just "live", take the pressure off yourself to know or not know.... If it's going to happen it will, and testing won't increase that chance....
I know its hard. I really do... And if you need to test before BT I totally understand.... But don't take up all your brain power living in the what ifs..... You will miss the journey along the way, and who knows what unit are missing that IS happening a round you.... Important life moments that you won't get back...
Just my opinion... For what it's worth....
Sorry for bossing.........will sneak back out again....
Miss you all daily, and wish you could all join me soon xox
LOL myturn - I love your bossing! Your still a superstar and my IVF hero so you can boss as much as you want
You are right, mentally it's not great to be testing everyday, but I will want to POaS before my BT and I know I won't be able to trust the result in my head. Hence, I am going to test on day 11 post trigger and then not test again until the morning before BT. I think that's a reasonable compromise?
Also my almost 5 year old ate a progesterone pessary this morning!! He thought it was a Lolly (stolen from my handbag). He spat it out, and I shouldn't laugh, but it was pretty funny. Explaining to him what it was (something for the garden - it was all I could think of on the fly) was not so funny! Neither was cleaning up the vomit that came shortly after.
Harder still was explaining to our nanny what it really was... This TTC ac stuff is not for the faint hearted!
Well I'm technically still in here, sigh. Have been bleeding all day long, heavy too (sorry tmi) I guess with the extra progesterone my lining was nice and thick. My BT is tomorrow but I just can't bring myself to go. Do I have to have the test? I'm sure I've come across posts of women who didn't bother going for the BT once AF showed up before the BT.....
Oh Miss B, so sorry to hear about the heavy AF I'm the same after the progesterone, I always bleed really heavily. That said, I have really heavy AF without the pessaries so I share your pain on that one! Re the blood test, you don't have to go if you don't want to - however my FS has always told me I should get the BT, even if I have got a negative POAS beforehand because they like to see what your other levels are doing at the end of the cycle regardless? However - it depends on what your FS tests for? Eg I know some clinics only test for pg - eg: HCG only, whereas my clinic tests for the 3 main hormones as well as HCG (oestrogen, progesterone and LH).... Maybe youncould ring your clinic and explain yout situation and hownyour feeling - and ask if therenis actually any benefit in having the BT if you feel like it hasn't worked? They may do the whole "some people can still have a period even if they are pg thing" - which tbh I find pretty unhelpFul when your already feeling like crap. I know there is merit in what they are saying from a medical perspective, but us ltttc'ers know our own bodies pretty well... If it were me I'd just be asking for their advice and what your personal FS wants you to do. If they get insight from this cycle for your next cycle - then I would probably do the BT (even though I'm sure a visitnto your clinic and the ensuing phone call is probably thenlastbthing you feel like!).
I'm so sorry your going through this. I wish there was something I could do to lessen or numb your pain I know it doesn't help - but I'm here for you, and I think of you all the time and try and do deals with the universe so you get your happy ending. I'm sending you all thenlove and hugs in the world.
AFM - Miss B it seems as though you and N2L were correct today is day 10 post trigger for me, and no second line. So it seems as though the trigger has left my system. I am not feeling any signs or symptoms... Which is bothering me a bit. Sore boobs yes, sore lower back tick, tiny cramping yesterday - but I know this is all from the pessaries Mentally I was feeling quite positive about this cycle, I started with a hit of the mindset of, of course it will work - it worked last time, why wouldn't it work. And I've been super busy which helps, but last night I started second guessing, not feeling any symptoms etc and then this morning, even though I know it's too soon to test, even if it has worked - getting the negative should have made me feel better (at least I know the trigger is gone) but it didn't, it made me feel like crap! As darling Amy_jb has said - it's too early and don't worry, she didn't have any symptoms and neither did I with the twins (I had mild cramping with the twins but that wasnprob from the pessaries as well) - but with the twins cycle, I just felt so positivenit would work.... And now I'm stressing and actually thinking, well what if it doesn't work??? And I don't know why I feel so shocked that I'm even thinking that? I should have been thinking that from the beginning - but I wasn't....
Soooooo I'm feeling a bit lost. Today is 3dp5dt - if I was going to have an implantation bleed - roughly when would it - or should it happen? I know there aren't many people posting in here, but stalkers if you are stalking - please feel free to jump in with any knowledge, personal experience or advice - when would an implantation bleed happen if it was going to happen? And while I'm asking - does anyone know where to find the chart that outlines what happens each day in an IVF cycle post transfer? I remember when I was in the 2ww with the twins - there was a chart somewhere on here that outlined what was happening 'in there' each day after transfer on a day 3 transfer and a 5 day transfer? Does anyone know where I might find this chart? All I can remember was I think that day 3 after a 5 day transfer is when implantation is supposed to commence? I think?.... Okay so I've been going really well in the 2ww until today... Nowi can feel the obsessing and stressing beginning
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I'm the same after the progesterone, I always bleed really heavily. That said, I have really heavy AF without the pessaries so I share your pain on that one! Re the blood test, you don't have to go if you don't want to - however my FS has always told me I should get the BT, even if I have got a negative POAS beforehand because they like to see what your other levels are doing at the end of the cycle regardless? However - it depends on what your FS tests for? Eg I know some clinics only test for pg - eg: HCG only, whereas my clinic tests for the 3 main hormones as well as HCG (oestrogen, progesterone and LH).... Maybe youncould ring your clinic and explain yout situation and hownyour feeling - and ask if therenis actually any benefit in having the BT if you feel like it hasn't worked? They may do the whole "some people can still have a period even if they are pg thing" - which tbh I find pretty unhelpFul when your already feeling like crap. I know there is merit in what they are saying from a medical perspective, but us ltttc'ers know our own bodies pretty well... If it were me I'd just be asking for their advice and what your personal FS wants you to do. If they get insight from this cycle for your next cycle - then I would probably do the BT (even though I'm sure a visitnto your clinic and the ensuing phone call is probably thenlastbthing you feel like!).
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