M and Joeve sorry for you bfn's too I can't believe we had three in one day. Dh and I are struggling with this one too. I really thought maybe we were pg as I still don't have af. Have had the cramping though so should have known. Big hugs girls hope your feeling better soon and that next cycle you get that well deserved bfp.
My turn I hope you are on your way to a bfp. I too get upset when people are happy I'm seeing a fs and started ac and I haven't even got to ivf. I just wish people would say it sucks your going through all that instead of all the unhelpful advice, suggestions of adoption or telling me to be happy we have the technology and how exciting it all is.
Yeah, exciting like colonic irrigation Although, at least with colonic irrigation you know what you're going to get at the end, and you're prepared for all of the shyte you will be dealing with.
So sorry for the BFNs
I reckon we are due for a bfp or ten in here.
AFM - All goes well with my embie thaw, my transfer is at 10.50 tomorrow.
total bugger about all the BFN..... puts my whinges to shame....
Marushke you are totally allowed to have a huge cry and sook about it... cause it totally sucks....but probably best to hold off selling stuff until you've had a chance to grieve.
I know there's nothing I can say to make it feel better, but I wish I could wave my magic wand and make it all better for everyone
....I couldnt help but giggle N2L.... your chosen metaphor was "colonic irrigation"??
bugger... my GP is on leave.... hope the one I've booked in for is nice about it all.
Nice to hear that other people also find the "congrats" and "that's exciting" stuff out of place as well.
I've never been a forum person before, but I am certainly finding it helpful at the moment.
Thankyou everyone for being my place to vent and obsess - I really appreciate it.
And yes...it is hard! Its all hard! The emotional journey, which begins when you first start trying to conceive and start investigating why its not happening, then your hope peaks again I guess when you try other drugs before ivf and then of course the grief that sets in when you are told that its going to be virtually impossible for you to conceive naturally; then there's the invasiveness of it all! I was one of those girls who couldn't even bear a pap smear. I would feel sick in the stomach and dizzy and hated being on show. And I have had to face those fears head on. The sore breasts, bloated belly, mood swings, injections, egg collection, cramping, progesterone pessaries etc. I told my husband last night that none of this is fun. I try and keep my mind focused on what we're trying to do here, but this is not what I planned. Its my body and I've had so many people doing things to it. It is hard.
You know what..I actually have had the sympathetic response and (for me) its not that helpful. Its almost an "I feel sorry for you" response. And you know what, this si the situation we're in, these are the cards we';re dealt. And you know what struck me the other night....who else gets the chance to see their baby at the embryo stage? Only us.
It is hard, but remember what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. We are a special breed, that's for sure!
I was shocked when I went in for my transfer. My little embie was 10 cells, no fragmentation. It looked gorgeous!!! My FS was thrilled! Still, can't gety hopes up...just read that even with a perfect embie there is still only a 40 per cent (at the most) chance of implantation. And I have other factors against me. Still, nice to be pleased for a minute or two...
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Although, at least with colonic irrigation you know what you're going to get at the end, and you're prepared for all of the shyte you will be dealing with.
you are totally allowed to have a huge cry and sook about it...
cause it totally sucks....but probably best to hold off selling stuff until you've had a chance to grieve.
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with you transfer today! I have everything crossed for you that your little embie will defrost beautifully
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to all currently in the 2ww!
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