Farmgirl, i really hope that your friend just suffers from a bad case of 'foot in mouth' and what came out of her mouth wasn't something she really was thinking seriously about in terms of how insensitive and unfeeling that may have sounded, or even how she really felt about it at all. i find a lot of people just don't understand infertility and the particular sensitivities associated with it.

you will know in your heart of hearts if this is something you want to do. no one else will ever be able to tell you except for yourself. listen to yourself not what those around us fumble with or just don't try to understand.

the girls above have pretty much said what i would say to you. no one goes into IVF lightly. however, a lot of fertile people go into parenthood with less consideration than we do. not to say they are any less of parents but it is often just something they assume they will do one day with little question. my subfertility has caused a lot of my more fertile friends to really analyse why they want to be parents.

to be honest i sometimes question why am i doing all this. not because i don't want to be a mum, but it may be a reality that i am not going to be a mum one day. i can sometimes suffer paralysis of thought due to over analysis and confuse myself completely about how i feel! i think this is fairly normal, well it is for me.

hun that was a hard thing to bear the brunt of.

xx