Hi Possums,
Welcome and good luck on your IVF journey! Although it doesn't sound like you had a very good start..
My advice would be to find another FS if you are not happy with your current one. IVF is a pretty intense journey and you need to feel comfortable and 100% confident in your doctor (and you are also paying them a lot of money!)
The first specialist I saw sounded exactly the same as what you are describing your current FS to be like. He treated my DH and I like a number, he was difficult to make appointments with, he fobbed off our questions and concerns..in short, it was a horrible experience. I persevered for about 4 months with him and then went elsewhere (he also made it very difficult for us to take all of our current test results when we switched doctors - watch out for that one!). My FS now is an absolute darling who I would trust absolutely. Nothing is too much trouble for him. I am so glad I made the decision to switch specialists when I consider just how different my current FS is to my first one.
Remember - you are in charge of your treatment and there is no point in giving all your hard earned money to someone you are not happy and confortable with. Maybe just check and see if there is another FS belonging to the same clinic that you can go to??
Good luck!