I don't know if this is the right place to put this - (so mods if it needs to be moved please do) but I have been reading the positives thread elsewhere and I really like the concept - remembering the 'positive' things for the day. Positive Psychology refers to it as the 3 blessings. Anyway, the problem with the other thread is that there is lots of talk about kids, and it's all about DS this and DD that, blah, blah, blah... which I've been finding a bit difficult... feels a bit like salt in the wound when everything is about how great the kids are. So I thought it might be nice for us to have a similar thread, but with less emphasis on the baby stuff (doesn't mean you can't be grateful for your kids.... just perhaps don't rub it in too much for those of us who DON'T have any yet).
so anyway here are my 3 blessings for the day
1. I managed to clean most of the house today
2. beautiful sunny day so I managed to dry all the washing - it's now on the bed waiting to be folded and put away
3. DH skyped twice :-)
...and tomorrow I will make sure I fold and put away the clothes AND do the dishes before I go to bed so I still have a clean kitchen by tuesday
The idea is to remind yourself of the things that went well for the day - and then to write how you can get more of that tomorrow :-)
My 3 blessings for today:
1. Even though my computer died yesterday I managed to save three (long) reports and so have not had to rewrite them today.
2. I had one of those 'this is why I love my job' days.
3. Catching up with my sister tonoght.
and tomorrow ...
Im also doing a clean of the house tonight so will be in a good mood from the moment I wake up and DH is home for 6 days as of tomorrow night (YAY!) so we can be a team in processing what ever our options are after visiting the fs tomorrow.
1 - I had an RDO from work today (always a blessing )
2 - I got some extra washing done
3 - spent a nice afternoon with MIL and got a bit of christmas shopping done.
and tomorrow.....
I will make sure I get up a bit earlier to be more organised so I can get to the gym after work, been eager to get back after being a bit unwell last week.
ummm... so today... I woke up late and was feeling kinda dodgey... so this is probably and important exercise for me today.... so here goes...
1. I was able to do some planning and preparation for the next session with a client I saw this morning and it was good because it will be something I can use with other clients in the future
2. I didn't get the chocolate or anything crap for dinner (or to snack on) when I was on my way home, or in the supermarket
3. I genuinely coped well with the baby talk at work (one of the girls is 14 weeks preg, and another is nearly 8 months)
so tomorrow I can get more of this by..... staying focused on tasks at work - and I will see a friend tomorrow night who had a baby about 2 months ago - if I keep up with the current attitude I should be okay....
Now to make sure I follow yesterdays promise and finish the dishes and fold the washing... if I could only get off the couch....
sorry, I certainly didn't mean to insinuate that anyone was trying to rub it in intentionally! Just that I liked the idea, but found that every post was about the kids, and I just thought that there may be other people like me who have yet to be blessed that might find that hard.
I just thought that the people in here may be a bit more sensitive to that, and of course people can be thankful for their babies and all that - just to be aware that in here it's a sensitive topic. I thought everyone would understand that. Sorry if I offended anyone by suggesting otherwise. But perhaps this is not the right thread if you are worried that you will offend people by your positives.
I don't resent others being thankful for their children, but as I don't have a baby to be thankful for at all, I thought that there may be people in here who understood that.
N2L - I think everyone needs to make a decision about whether their blessing will fit in here - I certainly won't be offended it people mention DS or DD - it was just that in the other thread it felt that every post was about the things that DS or DD were doing.
Personally I just want to remember to be thankful for the things that are not baby focused - and I thought maybe some other people felt the same way.
I feel like if I try to keep explaining myself I will just dig myself in further - there wasn't supposed to be any rules attached - just more sensitivity to the issues we have in here. Sorry again.
Last edited by myturn; November 21st, 2011 at 06:40 PM.
Sometimes I am upset at things said... I know for a FACT that the posters were not trying to be offensive but I am in such a sensitive place that innocent random comments hurt me, and I want to run away to a safe place. I think you want this thread to be your safe place.
I think this is a lovely thread but I absolutely do not think that anyone in any threads were rubbing salt into the wounds of people TTC! I know exactly where you are coming from but IMO its just that DS or DD may be a HUGE part of that individual persons life, and perhaps they have nothing else! I know that personally I spent 5 years and 11 IVF cycles. It can be very hard on here at times and knowing that by writing the one postive in my life for example is upsetting others makes me for one, feel like a real cow!
I dont intend to offend you and again I do think it is a lovely thread to have started.
4. I actually finished all the dishes - yay (a real achievment for me - as I hate dishes!!! - and always procrastinate with them... AND I mopped the kitchen floor....
tomorrow.... I will remind myself that I can start the day afresh.... and stick in all those routines that are important to me.
1 - I got through the day even though I had to cover someone else's job at work today as well as my own and the day did not go to the plan I thought it would.
2 - My puppies always put a smile on my face when I get home and they are always so happy to see me.
3 - I was able to laugh at things today which would normally frustrate me and just brush them off.
Tomorrow: I will not place to high expectations on myself, not that goals etc are not important but I had an uh huh moment today when I realised sometimes I am to hard on myself and need to give myself credit for the great things I already do and not focus so much on what I don't have done.
1. even though i woke up late I still got on the exercise bike before doing anything else this morning - and managed to stay on for 10 minutes (i'm weaning myself on to it okay ;-) )
2. actually got a kid to do what I wanted him to do in an assessment today :-) yay me...
3. having a friend over tonight to help me plan the curriculum for a course I'm going to teach next year at a uni (which is terrifying but fantastic all at the same time) so I will enjoy two days in a row with friend company :-)
tomorrow: I will stay focused on task at work and get some report writing started - and try not to get distracted by the bosses silly requests and other people's chatter
my turn, well done on the exercise bike, any amount of exercise is good whether it is 10 minutes or 30.....
today...
1 - I am happy that even though I had a big long meeting all day I did not come home from it overwhelmed like I normally would.
2 - I managed when I got home to prepare the mixture for a mud cake mind you 4x the normal amount of mixture as I am making a cake for a baby shower... so got the mixture done and dinner cooked as well as tidied the kitchen cake is in the oven cooking as we speak.
3 - and thankful I am feeling just generally ok, I have had my moments lately but today feeling good.
Tomorrow: not a big aim I just aim to try and get through the day with a smile and do what I can, as I will be up late tonight and have a 6:30 work start in the morning then after work home to do some cake decorating....
@myturn- lol! Yep, he's still my sweet guy and I'm sooo lucky! We don't live in a perfect bubble but I'm so grateful for how good he is to me. Now if only my body will reward our efforts with a baby....
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Myturn - no beach tonight - movies with my sister (which I very much needed)
So today ...
1. My sister for noticing that I wasn't coping the best today and spending some girl time with me.
2. For bb - the place I can come to when I need to find someone who 'gets it'. Thanks Myturn for pointing out that even though you weren't having the best day this was still a good idea. I was nearly going to deliberately skip this and Im glad I didn't.
3. For my job - some interesting travel for next year may be on the horizon.
For tomorrow - Im going to get up early and finish some paper work so that I can recover from my lap in the afternoon without stressing about reports for work.
Im kinda proud I managed to that! It was strangley hard to do tonight. Hope you girls are all doing well.
I too am proud of you Keta - hopefully it helped put a small smile on your face. xx to your sister for being there for you
ah zig.... I too wish I could be rewarded with a baby... if I think too hard about it, I feel that the universe is punishing me... but enough of that in here.... today I feel much better...
1. Managed to get a WHOLE report written (now just got 7 to go... that's at least 7 days of work!)
2. Actually DID use my ear phones at work and was proud of myself to staying focused for the most part.
3. .......ummm...... I got salad to go with my fish from the Fish and Chip shop (rather than the usual chips to go with it) :-)
noticing that number 3 is often difficult to find, but hey, the more I practice the easier it will get.
so snikkers... how did the smiles go?? Lol - you know.... that's probably a good exercise, i remember in my younger days talking with a friend (can't for the life of me remember who!) who said she sometimes would do that all day, and watch the faces of people who don't know how to react! sad that people don't know how to react to a smile....
I'm going to go with that theory for tomorrow, and see what happens
thanks everyone for sticking with me on this... it helps remind me to be thankful for what I DO have....
my turn: Well the smiles went well when I did smile they smiled back... though I wasn't as smiley as I could have been all day but there is always room for improvement will do this again tomorrow.. good on you about the salad too you go girl! it can be very hard to resist chips especially when getting fish.
1- I made it through the day even though I was so tired and got up for work early then got a phone call after my shower saying someone would not be in which meant I had to change to a late shift.... meaning I could have slept in.. but it was what it was and got to go back to bed anyway and snuggle with DH for a while.
2- managed to laugh at and joke about a situation I would normally get upset about.
3- hmm number 3, it is getting hard sometimes to think of three but here goes I am going to be thankful for this thread and the fact it gets me to reflect positively on thngs even if they are small or can seem negative to begin with there is always a way of seeing things in a different light... (yes it is harder for some things than others though).
tomorrow hmmmm well tomorrow I will continue to give smiles to everyone and I will also think of something nice to say to all the staff at work... (that could be a challenge with some lol but I am up for it).
Last edited by snikkers1; November 30th, 2011 at 07:41 PM.
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will do this again tomorrow.. good on you about the salad too you go girl! it can be very hard to resist chips especially when getting fish.
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