The Top 10 things you don't want to hear ...

[{sarah}]

The worse one is when someone announces they're pregnant and say "it was so easy" or "we weren't even trying" or "don't even know if we're ready for a baby yet" and then I feel like saying 'well give it to me then coz I'm desperate'

Yep Danni, I've felt like saying that before too!

[~Debbie~]

Yep Danni, I've felt like saying that before too!

Ditto - or, we fell preg by accident, didnt want it, so "got rid of it". Such a nice phrase.
My trying for 14months seems so small in comparison to what some of you guys have been and are going thru.
No words available - just hugs and prayers.

[Smoke Jaguar]

Thanks, BW I realise that it also depends on the person as to what they wish to hear or not hear from friends, but it's good to know that, in general, the straight up rule still applies. It's such a sensitive thing to broach with friends who are TTC and every time I open my mouth to say something considered, I feel as if I maybe should have thought a bit more about it and maybe I've just exacerbated someone's anguish. But, by the same token, I don't want to pretend that all is well.
Pregnancy issues just bring out the moron (paradoxically, when they think they are being wise) in many people, doesn't it? I had a colleague tell me, about half way through the pg, "Your belly is so small, are you sure the baby's alright?"...need I say more?
When we decided to give TTC a go, we didn't do any charting or anything 'religious', but it took us possibly a bit longer than I thought. The thing is, though, I always kept in mind that my body might have other plans for me and not to take it for granted that I COULD fall pregnant. I still don't take it for granted that I can have more - when asked about another, I always preface and say that if nature doesn't have other plans...then outline the vague 'plan' we have. That thinking has probably made me more aware of what you guys go through, because, hey, it could be me, too - and I never assume that it's just my right to have another whenever I decide. I'd still feel ripped off, though, like you do :hugs:
I'm glad I read this thread - I've gained more insight, thanks I'm so glad you ladies have each other here in BB!