Hi,

I can relate!!!!!

I am currently 35 and I also had unexplained infertility. The difference between you and me though, was that I was getting pg, but I constantly miscarried. I have been pg 7 times and I am only just carrying this pg through to term (I am currently 34.5 weeks!). I struggled with conception for 3 years before being successful.

I have had every test under the sun and have done IVF 3 times - all to no avail. I have had various drugs support therapys, I have reduced stress, I have had laporoscopies....the works. All my tests kept coming back that everything was normal, including the embryo biopsying as part of IVF. I too (and my DH) was very frustrated. I use to think - nay, hope - that a test would come back saying that something was wrong and that i could take a pill or an injection for it and all would be well, but no. Never anything that simple for me.

Even being through it all, I can't suggest anything for you, other than the support of myself and the many wonderful ladies (and men) on this site. I have found the conversations, advice, listening, etc invaluable to dealing and coping with my problems, because like you, I started to think how could DH understand???

I guess my advice to you would be not to listen to the "do gooders" in this workd that tell you to just relax and it will happen. It doesn't just happen like that and the more you try to relax, the worse it is. I would suggest getting a fertility specialist that you are REALLY comfortable with and one that is prepared to try things that maybe are not exactly tried and true. Even if this means seeing a couple. I started with my GP, went to one fertility specialist (with whom I did 3 cycles of IVF) and then got a 2nd opnion from another (with whom I had another miscarriage before keeping this current pg). He is still treating me.

I am happy to chat whenever you like, and I know the other girls in the monthly thread in this forum will have heaps of suggestions as well. Please don;t think that you are alone in all of this, because you won't be. You may feel like you are until you speak to us. We understand and will always listen. And bear in mind, that successes can really happen. It did for me, and like we have no idea why I kept loosing pgs, we have no idea how this one worked! Equally frustrating (especially when we will want to repeat it all again!).

Come over to the monthly thread and introduce yourself.

Hayseed