Ryn, you've never said anything remotely offensive at all! You are one of the most sensitive people to the situation that I've ever discovered, but I completely applaud that suggestion.

It would be great to have a list of things to do as well as not what to do... would be great to be able to hand that to the people who pull the "just relax" line, or who believe that adoption or successfully having one child through IVF is a magic cure for infertility.

BW