What drives you crazy about TTC?

[Caramello]

I'd love to add my support to SuzyQ that donor conception is a really tricky area to deal with. People just look at you blankly when you try to explain what is happening. And it is even harder to talk to men about it than women - I only talked to one male friend about it at work and he changed the subject so quickly it left my head spinning. I only talked to him because he asked specific questions. So any help in that area would be great.

[Janie]

David I was going to request the same as Ryn I really would like to know how to help my good friend who is going through IVF, rather than feeling like I'm always saying the wrong thing. Possibly there's nothing I can do to help her, but that makes me feel like such a useless friend IYKWIM?

Having suffered a miscarriage I am aware of the incredibly stupid things people say to try and make you feel better. I know that they want to be comforting and help, and really don't know the right thing to say, but it doesn't make it any easier to take. Unless a person has been there done that they really haven't a clue how you're feeling or what you're going through. So I know that I have NO idea what my friend is going through with TTC with IVF, over and extended period of time. And as a result I really don't know if she would just prefer me to shut up, or if she just doesn't pay attention to what I say I feel like being pg makes it all the more tricky IYKWIM.

So I will read your articles with great interest in the hope that I can be a more understanding and better friend, and hopefully gain some tips on how to do that.

ETA My apologies, I thought I had removed my sig from this post, just realised I hadn't. It's done now, hope I didn't upset anyone, it was a mistake, I'm so sorry.