Reply With QuoteWow - thank you for sharing that, even though its made me cry
What noone told you about TTC
I just got sent this via email, thought it was a good read. Im sure we can all relate to every one.
What Nobody Told You About Trying to Conceive...
That unprotected sex doesn't necessarily lead to pregnancy.
That your sex life would start to resemble a science experiment.
That you would see your OBGYN/FS more often than your DH at O time.
That the longer you TTC, the more PG women spring up around you.
That one day you wouldn't mind checking your CM or CP to see if it is your fertile period.
That I would know more about the female reproductive system and menstrual cycle than most of the doctors I go to.
That living your life in 2 week increments would be the norm
That you never knew how much you wanted to see those 2 pink lines......until only one shows up every month
That simply relaxing will NOT get you pregnant.
That wishing really hard for something doesn't make it happen, and staring at your chart doesn't make it change!
That a pregnancy doesn't always equal a baby.
That miscarriage is so common.
That I would wish we had started TTC earlier.
That my friends' pregnancies would start to make me sad instead of happy.
That I wasted ALOT of money on Birth control pills!!
That it would help bring a group of wonderful, caring, funny, empathetic women together like this.
That I'd EVER be willing to stab myself in the stomach or @ss every day in the hopes that it will help get me PG.
That it wouldn't happen the first time you didn't use birth control like we were led to believe in school.
That you wouldn't know how important a baby was to you until it took so long and you realized what you were willing to go through to make it happen.
That my DH is the most wonderful and caring man!
That it is insensitive to ask people when they are having a baby!
That women who do get pregnant are so very blessed!
That I would be happy to see abundant cervial fluid and tell my DH about it.
That other people's "good news" of pregnancy makes me sad and when they tell me they have good news, I hope that they just saved a bunch of money on car insurance.
That medicine and procedures are not a sure fire way to get pregnant but it is a sure fire way to lose money fast.
That docs should prescribe Zoloft with Clomid.
That having AF show up makes you cry, no matter who's bathroom you are in.
That it does not get easier, each cycle is harder than the last.
That a group of "strangers" who I will probably never meet, have now become my "best friends" when it comes to TTC.
That I would splash urine on my face while taking apart an hpt in the hopes there really was a 2nd pink line hiding in it.
That talking about sex with fellow TTCers would be so easy.
That infertility is more common than you think.
That DH would get used to doing his 'thing' in a jar.
That one day all of this will make us stronger.
That there is nothing to aid conception in the water at work, despite what some may say.
That I'd discover who my true friends are, both IRL and online.
That I'd be glad to know that I have PCOS - because at least I know what's wrong.
That I could spend so much time and money on figuring out what my body is doing (or not doing).
That foreplay would consist of DH asking "How's your cervix today"
That sex would ever become a chore!
That I would resent someone who has been trying less time than me telling me "I know how you feel..."
That DH would be overly concerned that our BD positions were the most effective ones!
That I would become addicted to POAS and not sleep at night because I couldn't wait to POAS in the morning!
That I would be so sad, and ashamed.
That I would learn to speak in code
Like I checked Cm which was EWCM but when I will POAS who knows, dh won't let me for fear of BFN
That when AF showed up you would feel broken and dysfunctional.
That your friendships with your real life girlfriends would suffer because they got pregnant after being off the pill for 3 weeks.
That this would be, by far, one of the hardest things you will ever have to go through.
That you HAVE to have sex even though you don't feel like it, but because your FM says high or peak.
That I would meet such wonderful group of people that I can share my sorrow, frustration and fears with.
That I would be going to a psychic to find out if there was a baby in my future (she told me twins in 3 to 5 months!)
That I would dream about taking my temperature and be disappointed if I woke up at 3am and it wasn't time yet.
That I would stop fantasizing about having a baby because it stopped making me happy.
That the two little words of "just relax" uttered by everyone I know would infuriate me beyond belief.
That we would have to schedule a BD session so DH could do it in a cup a few days later.
That my friends who started TTC #1 around the same time we did would already be pregnant with #2 before we get pregnant with #1.
That I would watch a Baby Story every day... only to cry every day.
That it puts this much strain on a marriage.
That I spent years trying not to get pregnant, and praying for my period. Now I can't seem to lose the witch!
It's good to know I am not alone.
That I would have to listen to people complain about their children as if they were burdens while a child is the one thing in the world I want the most. Also, they sound as if they are trying to talk me out of having kids, like it is the absolute worst thing that could ever happen to me.
That being overweight would cause people to ask when I'm due, which in turn could cause me to cry.
That every girl should go to the gyn as soon as she gets AF the first time. If I had, I would have been dx with PCOS a lot faster.
That a friend would hide and ignore her own pregnancy to try to keep me from being upset. (we found out when she gave birth)
That your body has its own mind.
That you would be keeping it a secret from everyone.
That the broken heart you feel each month that is equal to the pain you feel when you lose a loved one.
That all of a sudden nursing other people's babies becomes a depressing NOT joyful feeling
That you feel useless as a female
That you will soon be lying through your teeth telling people that you don't want children
That you feel that your body has betrayed you by not delivering a regular cycle, the right about of the required "hormones" or doing what it should now how to do.
That you feel stupid and naive for thinking a pregnancy would occur "when it was supposed to".
That answering questions (and usually lying) about pregnancy or family plans would hurt so bad.
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Wow - thank you for sharing that, even though its made me cry
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As i read each line my head was nodding...its so so true
"That I would know more about the female reproductive system and menstrual cycle than most of the doctors I go to."
Currently an issue with my local GP "/
Thanks so much for sharing!!
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These were really good but made me so sad because of how true they are.
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OMG Yes! I did this last month, damn thing wouldn't budge though. I thought about a hammer.....
Thanks for sharing MrsS, so many things we all didn't know about but now seem so 'normal'.
Hugs to all xx
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That made me a bit teary, because everything on that list is so true
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yep its sad to think that you spend so many years trying not to get pregnant then when you want to you cant or you do and miscarry.
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So true, but you made me cry!
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I cried reading that too! Every single aspect related to me!
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Thanks for sharing hun. So true, and sadly this is a path for so many of us.
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Thank you so much for sharing
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