Possums - it just seems so unfair that you are having to go through this decision making process at all! Ultimatly you and your DH need to do what you feel comfortable with - and reading what you have said so far, it sounds like you need a break for a while. IVF will be there for you when you are ready, if that be in 3 or 6 months - or not at all because you fall pg naturally! I know how hard the waiting is, but take the time, have some other tests done and take it from there.

Wishing you all the best, as I know that your time will come
FG