I hope that this doesn't come across as insensitive in any way.... Mods if this is not appropriate or someone wants it removed please feel free. I really don't want to cause any offence.

My sister told me yesterday she's now been trying to TTC for 12 months and has been referred on to a OBGYN. I was extremely lucky in that I conceived relatively quickly, so I feel like I need to take care with what I say around her after seeing online friends etc go through the LTTTC merry go round.

What I want to know is, what are some things that you'd want your sister/relative/friend who hasn't had to go through LTTTC to know? Would you want them to talk to you about it? Would you want them to just keep quiet unless you said something?
I find it hard and feel like I've got my foot in my mouth as I have 2 kids and I find that they are my main point of conversation most of the time. I don't want to come across as insensitive in any way. I'd never want to upset my sister and I'd do anything to help her out.

I've told her that I'm happy to talk to her anytime about TTC in general, even the nitty gritty. I'm more than happy to be a sounding board and that I could put her in touch with people who have/are LTTTC via forums such as this one. I also apologised if I've ever been insensitive when it came to TTC/kids in general. I feel like I shouldn't be the one to bring it up and just leave her to talk when she wants to? I just want to know I'm doing the right thing by her.

What would you want your sister/sibling/friend to do in this situation?