It doesnt stop the pain and twinge of jealousy occasionally.
When we lost our bub at the end of first tri, my best friend had just told me she was 5 weeks so we were excited together - but then our baby became an angel - our relationship was strained - until we were honest - I cried with her and told her how excited I was for her, but please nto to think I dont care if at times I can't talk to her about it etc.
Last edited by dusty; March 11th, 2009 at 10:39 AM.
o know im not a LTTTC but i have a close friend who is and coming from the other side of the fence i would say your f riend will completely understand on your bads days and just enjoy the good days i know i did
I simply made a statement to her at the beginning and said
"I no this will be hard for you but i know you are happy for me so here's the deal i will not bring up or talk about my pregnancy unless you prompt me to or ask questions that way i won't upset you on bad days but you won't miss out either."
im sure you friend will understand n you can both be there for each other....its perfectly normal and understandable to have an element of jealousy
Last edited by Smoz; March 11th, 2009 at 11:33 AM.
Please be aware you are posting in the Long term TTC area. It is ok to provide support to those looking for it, but please take care and be sensitive in what you say as many LT women are here because they haven't been able to or are not able to conceive naturally and may not have attained motherhood yet themselves.
Its such a hard one to deal with. My close friends have already have their children so I havent had to deal with the same situation, although a girl I work with whom Im pretty close to fell pregnant early last year around the same time I was trying naturally before they found my severe endo.
I tried really hard to be supportive and it was a bit hard to ignore her or not listen to all the baby talk as she sat litterally 5 ft away from me. I work in a small open plan office so we are all on top of each other!
Ive found it hard even when just other "acquaintances" have announced they are pg.
Like many have said already, when your having a good day, then be supportive, if not, then back away. Since she knows whats happening with you, Im sure she will be MORE than understanding with that.
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