DH and I are at loggerheads. In summary, I am our main income earner and sadly, have no entitlement to paid maternity leave. This leaves me with the fabulous option of taking all of my accrued annual leave (8 weeks worth) and then using the baby bonus to take another 4 weeks - giving me a total of 12 weeks off work before retuning FT.

DH has now come up with the idea that instead of me taking the additional 4 weeks that he could take 8 weeks leave and look after bubba and I could go back to work.

I have several issues with this. Firstly - I don't think that DH has a clue as to what it is like to look after a little baby. Secondly I want to BF so I would be essentially going back to work full time and having the pleasure of BF'ing during the night and getting very little sleep. Thirdly - I don't want to go back to work (very selfish reason I know - but nonetheless!).

I really feel that after working FT throughout the whole PG and dealing with the nausea and tiredness and lack of sleep etc etc that I should get to spend an extra month with our baby.

Common sense tells me that it would be better for our baby to be at home with one of it's parents, but I am having real trouble dealing with the idea of being back in my stressful job FT 8 weeks after having a baby.

Am I being a selfish cow??