Ryn, what a shame you are so far away - your DH would benefit from spending time at Tracey's or Kar's!

I agree entirely that you will do less than you think, at least at first, once the baby is born (and as the pg progresses also). You need to start training DH NOW!! Mine has high standards too, but at least he does a lot to help, so I don't mind. I certainly have not had to clean any bathrooms while pg, either time!

Nagging or critising is very unlikely to work. I recommend playing the pg card for all it's worth. Just start slowly, one thing at a time. Tell him you can't start dinner earlier as you really need to sleep/rest after work, but that if he would like to start it for you that would be really appreciated. Try and get him in the habit of doing this everyday. Then one day start to clean the bath and groan and tell him your back is too sore and you can't reach all the corners anymore and could he please take over that one job until the baby comes etc etc. And when he does anything to help, heap the praise on him.

As the others have said, I wouldn't mention the SAHM thing yet, just take it one step at a time. I wish you luck, keep us updated!

Melanie.