I am in the same situation - my youngest is 17 months - I have been unable to find part-time work started looking in October (nothing is ever advertised have had a few leads by word of mouth through my network of old colleagues but nothing substantial - work in IT specifically SAP logistics). Now considering full-time but I tried after DD and hated it so negotiated down to part-time so that is the only reason I want to consider it so that I could get foot in door and then negotiate down to 3 days a week. I know what you mean about the financial gain too - I worked it out and I would have same amount left after childcare if I worked 3 days (my preference) as 5 - so when you really don't want to work a full week anyway then that makes it even worse.

Sorry hasn't really helped with your question about how you come to terms with it - I haven't yet and am trying to explore other options, but so many of the jobs like working for the supermarkets you have to be supremely flexible and as we have no family support here and rely on childcare then I can't do that I need to know my hours are set for each week so I can organize childcare or make sure DH is home (logistically for night-fill - if working at night when do you then sleep? as would need to be looking after the kids in the day?).

For full time work everything have seen so far requires you to be flexible to travel e.g. a fortnight away every couple of months in Perth or somewhere - which I simply cannot do - I couldn't leave them for two weeks. If I can find something full-time with no travel I may go for it and one of the ways I am trying to come to terms with it, is I would ship my mum over from UK put her up in a flat and she would have the kids 3 days a week and get them to daycare the other two - still cheaper than two in daycare full-time - and to be honest I think I would really struggle to get both to childcare and then to work in a timely fashion and feed them etc if I was working 5 days a week in the type of demanding environment often work in.

There was a couple of job sites actually recommended by girls on here in this thread - -Anyone-used-any-careers-services-for-returning-to-work
that might be useful to you if you haven't seen already - I am sure I have seen accounts jobs on them -Ethical jobs and Infoxchange


A company might be worth contacting is Randstad - I know where I used to work (actually where I used to work would have been perfect location for you but they offshored many of their accounting roles - as they are doing with IT too) they used them alot for accounts jobs - often short term fill in things but maybe part-time suitable.