Hi preagainpan!!!!!

Thanks so much for your post. I think you are a super-Mum for keeping up such a demanding job!

I guess it all comes down to being organized and prepared, huh? Although from what I've seen, little people never consider the schedule.

I can count on DP to be super-supportive with cooking, cleaning and looking after the baby. He really is a heavenly guy. I can't count on any support from work, though. It's a take it or leave it type of working environment here. Despite one of the highest birth rates in the world, I have never seen a woman breastfeed in the two years I've lived here.

I guess I'm thinking I'd have to be back at work when the baby is three months. I saw a three-month-old baby last time I was at the doctor and he was SO SMALL! I don't know how it would feel to leave such a defenceless little bundle with a nanny (who might not speak much English and may have very different ideas about child care). Although, I would probably only be leaving them alone for two and a half hours at a time, rather than five hours at a time.

I just want to be prepared. I knew a couple who had planned a stay-at-home Dad arrangement cos the wife earned more. The Dad-to-be had visions of playing golf every day with the baby in a sling. Was very shocked at the reality of being the primary carer!