thanks for all the replies.
I really want to get some bm in the freezer and get DD2 used to the bottle from someone else. It will be interesting as i tried to feed using nipple shields as she had tongue tie and she wouldn't have a bar of them. i guess she will get a lunch time feed so if she hates the bottle at least she will get that feed.
I'm a bit concerned cause my mum, dh's mum and DH will be looking after her which is a lot of caregivers. i have had issues with MIL imposing her own ideas on me before so will have to have a talk to her about being very open and talking about issues as they arise.
with DD1 i was ready to go back to work but that desire just isn't there this time. Have to keep reminding myself it's only 2 and a half days a week , i can do that. DH is also keen for me to get back to paid work as my ppl will finish soon and i'll have a month with next to nothing.