Mum & I were talking about my spd the other day. She made me feel kinda crap about it tbh. Saying that the doctor who told me to take it easy was an idiot & that in order to fix the problem I need to walk & get some exercise so I'm fit (thanks mum, if I could I would!)
Anyway, she stayed at Grandma's that night & they got talking about it. She found out that Grandma had had the same when she was pg with her 3rd child. As they talked mum realised she had it when pg with my younger sister. Her 3rd. Mine also started with DS, my 3rd. Noone else in the family has had 3 kids, so no idea if it'd go further than that or not.
Anyway, I finally feel a bit more like mum is understanding now. After saying that was actually part of her reason for not having any more. She said it was too painful & that she felt like her body was falling apart. & that she was fitter in that pregnancy than she had been in either of her first 2. Only she says that hers was obviously not as bad as mine was.
So, has anyone else talked to their mum/grandmother about this? Does anyone else have another close family member who had it?
I'm pretty sure my mum would have told me if she had (mum likes talking about medical stuff) but my physio says that mine is particularly bad because my joints are hypermobile AND she says that can be genetic. But that could have come from my dad just as easily as it could have from my mum. I do remember mum being a bit obsessed with showing off how she could 'still' do handstands though when we were growing up, so she might be more bendy than most!
Nah I don't think my mum had it - and she probably wouldn't have known if her mother had had it, and I have no living grandmothers to ask!!! My sister didn't have it and she's had 5 pregnancies (3 live children) but my #3 pregnancy was better than my #2 pregnancy, just because it was treated basically from the day I got my BFP.
But that is the main reason why I am stopping at 3 kids - its just too painful and stops me doing stuff with my kids that I have at the moment.
My chiro told me that there is nothing much you can do to stop from getting it, but it does help if your core muscles are strong - to help hold everything in place when the relaxin sets in. How accurate that is, I dunno, but I have no core strength so she might be onto something?
Arimeh - I think the core muscle strength only helps so much. I was doing clinical pilates once a week for at least six months before this pregnancy in preparation and it was still so severe at 7 weeks that my physio told me that I would be in a wheelchair soon. I've avoided that at least around the house by basically not doing any walking. I go to the end of my street and back (about 50 metres) a few times a week and that's it. That means I'm not in much pain at all but obviously it's incredibly mentally frustrating for me and DD to be housebound. At the moment, I choose the mental frustration rather than have the constant physical pain that I had last time when I didn't know any better.
My physio told me core strength exercises could help too. I've been thinking about doing some pilates. A friend & I have a DVD that has pilates from 6 weeks to 4 months after delivery, & from 4 months onwards. It has different moves for if you have pelvis pain, so it doesn't strain it more. I thought I'd give it a go. At least it would make sure I'm doing my pelvic floors every day. Don't know how much it'll help, if at all, but it might.
I strapped with a bandage today to see if it'd make a difference when I did the vaccuuming, but not that I noticed, so back to getting DH to do it.
I'm having a real hard time with it & Mel, I agree that I definetely won't be doing this again. I've been suffering depression already coz I feel sp crappy about the state of my house & how sick I've been. I felt the same towards the end with DS, but that was only the last few weeks. I'm a bit worried that its started so early this time.
All I can do is hope it won't get too much worse than it is now. DH just got a second job, & will only be home about 4 hours a day, if that, so he can't do much to help. He won't be home much more than a few hours over night as well, so that makes it harder.
Fiona - yeah I think it can help keep you out of a wheelchair (since mine kicked in at 4 weeks, I was pretty sure I was going to end up in one last time round) but definitely won't stop it happening - so maybe just the severity of it. I found having constant treatment (like weekly) was the only thing that kept me active.
Believe me, when I had DD2, I wasn't overly ecstatic about the fact that I had just given birth, but the fact that I could just get up and walk - WITHOUT PAIN - was the sweetest treat of all. Pain just went immediately. It was awesome. Already I'm forgetting stuff about the birth but I will always remember that feeling
Anyone else have a family history of spd?
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