I didn't know where else to put this and Cervical Incompetance is a medical condition of sorts.

When I was at my Ob the other day doing a check up/ grief support consultation thingy I asked him if he thought I had cervial weakness and he said no.
He went on to tell me he felt that contractions started the premature labour and that it was for that reason that my cervic opened early. He then went on to explain about bacteria that lives in the vagina etc and how it changes and that reaction may cause premature labour but there seems to be a very very fine line between the two and whether a person will receive a sture or not.

Now my ob is not pro suture which is kind of good because I agree a foreign body increases risk of infection etc but how will I know for next time?

I cannot prepare myself mentally for my next pregnancy knowing that no one knows for sure whether I have a weak cervix or whether it was just contractions that started my labour.

Being told that I will be closely monitored doesn't help.

I understand the difference between the two but how can premature labour just start? surely there is a trigger for it or something that starts the contractions?

Does anyone have any idea?

Has anyone had a similar problem where there seems to be no definative answer and went on to have a term pregnancy afterwards?

My ob seems to be very well respected and I trust him, I am just not convinced this was a contraction problem.

Nae x