Cervical Incompetance or just Labour?

[arh]

Nae,
I was so touched when I first read your message, as I knew exactly what you are going through. We lost our first baby, a dear little girl Isabella at 24 weeks 5 days. I had no idea I was in labour as I had a painless dilation of the cervix. I had a little bit of pain but just thought I was constipated. Then a membrane started to come down when I was on the toilet. By the time I got to hospital I was already 6cm dilated and although I desparately wanted them to do something to stop the labour they said I would definetly be having the baby that day. Our precious little girl was born on the 3-06-08 and passed away on 5-06-08. It was so hard to comprehend everything that happened and it still is. Everyday I ask myself why and wonder what I did wrong as I had had the perfect pregnancy and you wonder what you did wrong to deserve this. My ob has said that I have a short cervix and next time we have the choice of either having the stitch in at 14wks or just monitoring the length of cervix through scans every 2wks and then put a stitich in if need by. I am so worried and don't know which way to go. It's good to hear other people's experiences to see if they have any helpful info.
AR