i totally agree with you about m/w. i was 'high risk' last PG (and this one) & it was the m/w i came across (for monitoring & during labour) who made it all bearable. the doctors i 'had' to see barely saw me for more than a couple of minutes anyway!

i can't see why ivf would make you high risk - one of my friends has had 2 ivf PG and has been through a birth centre twice.

perhaps if the hospital won't put you onto the midwifery program then you could still do shared care with a more enlightened GP? i was doing shared care this time but the GP panicked and put me onto a tertiary hospital so i'm doing a follow through program with a student m/w. so far it's been fantastic & i feel somewhat pacified maybe that would be an option for you too?

good luck today