Thanks Lindie,

I'm going better after the initial shock and I feel so lucky to have heard from you and a couple of others who have been there - I can now actually discuss things optimistically without shedding tears.

I think I read on the internet or something that after the ventriculomegaly is detected at the 20 week scan, that the next ultrasound in a couple of weeks time will pretty much be decisive in letting you know if you can anticipate a good outcome. So in that case it should be ok to just have the next scan and then no more scans and hope for the best from then.... What are your thoughts on that? I was in shock a bit at my ob appointment so probably didn't take every detail in, but I did ask that if the next scan shows the fluid measurement to be stable or not any worse, then what next. She said that then its back to square one - not sure if she meant that every two weeks you have to wonder and hope it won't suddenly get worse.... Anyway, I'm just hoping I don't have to have loads of scans from now on.

I'm happy to go with c-section as my second born arrived by emergency c-section and I have too much anxiety about attempting VBAC.

I am going private, and didn't think of letting the hospital know re this diagnosis but that's a good idea. The ob reminded me that at least with my c-section booked the baby will automatically have a paed available to check her...

I'm glad all your checks have been good for your present pregnancy, that is great - you deserve a less stressful one this time round!

Thanks again for all your info and advice.