hi
i'm ttc number two and also have epilepsy. luckily it seems pretty easily controlled, but i do have major tonic clonic seizures occasionally when off meds. DS was unplanned and i was off meds throughout pg until he was 5 mths old.this time we have decided to stay on med even tho i've been seizure free for 2 years as it is less stressful for my DH and family to know the epilepsy is under control. we had lots of discussions about the possible affects of med on baby during pg and breastfeeding with specialist and i am lucky in that i only require a low dose to be effective. i take high dose folate to help with the slightly higher chance of neural tube defects. the best advice i was given was to find a dr you trust and make a plan so you feel that you are making the right decisions for your circumstances. the net and some other health professionals who may not be specialised in this area tend to give worst case senarios. my chemist always asks why i need high dose folate, and then wants to give me lots of information about the risks of pg on my med, i smile and thank them but reassure them i am being well looked after by my specialist. i did have a troublefree pg and labour first time around so am hoping for the same again.
i hope you get some answers soon and can enjoy the rest of your pg without so much stress