Getting help for someone who's never been diagnosed...

[kawazuki]

id get her to a gp and get mental health plan in place.
this will then entitle her to discounted if not free social work care and psychiatry.

When she is on this she will be able to apply for a disability pension once she has a diagnosis.
she will not be eligible until she has a diagnosis.

you will also need to see the GP without her, if you want to be the support person and find out what you need to do to make sure she is coping and your coping as it is a very stressful job being a carer.
from previous posts i don't feel you want this role.
and there is nothing wrong with that hun, nothing at all its a lot to ask of anyone and especially when you have your own family to care for.

But first call is get her to a GP for MHP.

good luck and its a hard time for anyone..

[Calluna]

Forgot to mention she is TERRIBLE with money. She sold her house in 2005 bought a whole heap of crap- 2 guitars and amplifiers, a huge flat screen tv, a car she didn't even test drive Because it was brand new, moved to QLD and less than a year later had nothing left.

That's what I though too about the MHP. I think I'll try to get her into my doctor, I know he is good and takes me seriously.... It's just a long way for her to go that's all...

I dont mind doing it, I'm just sick of going around in circles and getting absolutely nowhere with her... except up **** creek, that's been one of our favourite places to visit the past few years.

[kawazuki]

just keep your paddle with you lol..

I know what it feels like chasing your tail and getting no where.

she may also need a power of attorney for a while until she is stable.

The other thing is she needs to tell the DR everything she has been saying to you.

she is very lucky to have you

[misty]

Unfortunately unless and until SHE seeks out medical help and a diagnosis, nothing can really be done. And even then SHE needs to be the one to seeks out the help and support - and given what you have described about her personality, I doubt she would follow through on these things because it is not an easy process.

I am not saying you should not try. You should do what you feel you should do. But just be aware that you are likely going to be in for a very steep uphill battle - both with your mum and with any assistance you are trying to get for her. And if she decides for whatever reason that she doesn't agree with you, or that she doesn't want to be diagnosed, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Anything and everything you will be able to do, will on;y be able to happen with her informed permission and consent, no matter what MI she may or may not have.