Thanks so much everyone

I had a chat with her, and apparently the portions I've been giving her are too big. She has a lapband, but there's no fluid in it, so I assumed she could eat normally. Tonight I made dinner as normal, and gave her half what I would normally give her, and she ate it all - YAY!

She also said she gets annoyed at getting annoyed ITMS. She says that every day she sees herself doing to me what her mum did to her, with the fussiness and the general lack of gratitude for help, and it irritates her that she's doing it, which makes her even more short tempered, lol. So we've agreed that she's not to worry about turning into her mum, and I'll ignore anything narky she says.

One thing is for certain, I'm NOT looking forward to menopause