I don't really know how to feel. Angry I think. Bemused. It's an answer of sorts, but may still have nothing to do with why the boys died.
I think that all sounds perfectly normal It's certainly not the only reason for genetic abnormalities so there is no way of knowing for sure why your little boys died.

I agree that knowing now may well help you keep yourself healthy and I really hope the activated folate helps too. I hope you're not waiting too long.

I sill need to read more- but I may even wait till after we test to see if it's worth my while reading IYKWIM. We're going to our naturopath in April so I talk to him about it then.