Hi girls,
Nic Nac I have been reading but thought I might post a new one in a slightly different way..thanks for the reply.
Astrid nice that your's has improved..I hope that with a bit of hormone replacement that mine will?

I have been complaining about mine since i was pregnant with my last child, she has just turned 3.
I was told your cervix gets lower with each baby & i assumed they were right....no one has looked until just last week and after repeat UTI's and pelvic vaginal pain & a feeling of a UTI about to happen a sensation of a weird painful orgasm and urgency to wee..
I am about 10 kg overweight ( i am planning on weight loss now) but I think my main problem is I have gone through an early menopause started while trying for DD aged 4..I am 45..so I am hoping that i might start on oestrogen pessaries, or a vaginal pessary to hold things in place, sex has been painful and the repeat UTI's extremley distressing along with allergic reactions to drugs for them..I am starting to change how I do things my youngest 2 DD's now have to climb into the car by themselves and DD3 gets her nappy changed on the floor. I think the hard parts are you feel broken, lack of a sexual relationship takes away the intamcy & I always have worked hard, and now pushing the wheelbarrow and splitting wood along with gym workouts are a thing of the past, it seems to be changing me from the person I was, soooooo sad!!!

jellybean: the surgery idea is scary to me too, in particular mesh surgery..but need to wait and see I guess, it might come to a point when there is no option. I hope that you have success is there a chance of healing in the first 12 months post partum?

It is nice( you know what I mean) to know that I am not alone in this situation, it seems to be one of those things that you don't realize what incontience really means...its more than weeing yourself!!! Did and do you all do your pelvic floor exercises? I am thinking I should have done better there??