Thanks for the info chrissy. Unfortunately for us money is a huge problem. Not only do we have the usual bills, mortgage, rates, car, visa, etc, etc, we have to pay out over $800 a month in child support too, to kids we don't even see. (Sux big time).
Having the reversal done privately and paying out that amount of money just is not an option for us. That's why we are going to the Royal Women's Hospital in Melbourne, because all though the wait for the op is at least 12 months, it is at no cost.
Having this op and a baby means more than anything to myself an DH but if the money isn't there, it just isn't there... If only either one of us had rich parents...
We head off to our appointment on the first of October. So not too far away, but at the same time it feels like a lifetime too.
I'm glad everything went well for you and i wish you well on your next try.
Hi mumof5, thanks for joining us here. I think i have spoken to you before on another thread. Isn't it amazing how babies and wanting to have them, controls our lives and everything we do???
Feeling really really flat today. Only because i want a baby more than anything, and i am the most impatient person on the planet. I want to be pregnant and i want to be pregnant 5 minutes ago. If only money grows on trees so i could have the op done sooner. I've spent all weekend looking at pics of my beautiful baby niece who is just on a month old, and although i love her to pieces, she breaks my heart too. When not looking at my niece (auntie's little peanut), i was looking at videos of births on youtube.
I fear that for some reason they will not be able to do the op, or it will not be successful, and that she will be the daughter in will never have......
Maybe it is better if i go for a while, maybe come back when i have had my appointment in october. Maybe i need time out from all the baby stuff for a while and concentrate i what i already have and not what i want but don't yet have.
What do you all think girls???
God i can go on sometimes, so sorry everyone.
Framaine- I know what you mean i can so hear you. I wish i didn't have my reversal as i had to borrow the money in the first place and it didn't work anyway so its just been a waste of money. When one of the other BB girls (Crazymum2) told me about the IVF at Westmead and how cheap it was i jumped at the chance($1,450 For a complete hole IVF cycle). If i had of none before hand that ivf could be this cheap i would have gone IVF straight away and i could of had a baby by now. But we all make our mistakes and we all learn from them. Im very happy with what we are doing now and its only taken 8weeks to get to this point,only another15days to go!!!
take care
Em
Hi all,
yea I know I need to chill and this is nothing to what I was like 8 months ago !!
I go for the patency test in 2 weeks so it will be good to know what`s going on, although I am really scared about the results Im trying to be possitive.
I think getting baby stuff is just something we all do because I started getting a few things before I had the op and now my sisters have started giving us all there baby gear, my aunt gave me a pram the other week and Iv`e got about 5 boxes of baby clothes so hopefuly I will use them one day soon.
Chrissy all the best ttc and I hope your journey is a short one, if you don`t mind me asking, how many children do you have?
Good night everyone..
Sorry Chrissy (ttc#7) just noticed it.
Charmaine it is so tough and we have all been through it so please don`t be affraid to talk to us.
When I was at the start of my journey it seemed everyone around me was pg, and with the best of intensions one of my friends who was pg said to me "don`t worry we can share my baby" now that was a really sweet thing to say but the thing was it tore my heart out, I didn`t want to "share" someone elses baby I wanted my own. My cousin also had just recently had a bub and I would find myself there once a week for a cuddle only to leave and cry for the rest of the night, I can`t believe I put myself through that.
Charmaine, my app is Aug 24 shame it wasn`t a few days later, we could have met up. Take it easy sweety and be strong, where there`s a will there`s a way !!
Hi Ladies,
Hope you are all well and had a good day.
I can't thank you all enough for your support and words of comfort.
All is good here today. Pain from my PCOS is really extreme, to the point that i had to take my heavy duty pain killers, at work too. I am the store manager of a jewellry store, that does body piercing, i was that stoned from the pain killers, i had to get my 2ic to do all the piercings. She thought it was so funny.
Not gonna go on tonight like i normally do tonight. Just thought i would pop in and say hi before i head to bed.
Once again, hope all is good and you all had a good day.
Take care everyone, talk soon.
Charmaine
Hi Charmaine, sorry that you havn`t been feeling well.
Body peircer hay !! just the person I need. About 3 years ago I had my(don`t tell anyone !! ha ha)
nipple pierced and now I want it out but for the life of me I don`t know how. It`s very overated you know. So do I need to go back to the piercer or is there a way I can take it out myself ? It`s a ring with the ball in the middle.
Chrissy, this is probably a bit off topic and not real nice to talk about but was reading your post about m/c twice and wondered if you were to have an early m/c would you know ? It`s just that a couple of months ago af was 3 weeks late ant then she came with a vengance and (sorry if graphic) realy dark clotting, didn`t think much of it at the time but now just wondering if it`s possible I may have m/c.
Hi everyone,
Hope you all had a good day.
Onemore, nice to hear from you. About your piercing, that is a secret, hahaha
It sounds like what we call a b.c.r. ring. The ball is held in place only by little indentations on either side where it is attached to the ring. Because it is a sensitive area you may need to use a pair of plyers. Stretch the ring open with the plyers of course, and then the ball should just fall away from the ring. This can be done easily enough at home, but if your not too sure about it, head to a piercing place and get them to do it for you. Of course, if you do it yourself, make sure that your hands, the plyers and the ring is very clean (Sterile) before you start anything, to reduce the risk of infection.
Hey, i just remembered, only 16 days to go for you right???
Very exciting....
Things are getting that way for me too. In the next few days i should get a copy in the mail of my medical record from when i had the ligation done. That should tell me how long my tubes are, and the longer they are the better i'll feel, cause i know from my research that the longer they are the more chance i'll have of falling pregnant. Plus in the next week or so my hubby is off to have his little test (hahaha) done. That is one thing that is worrying me heaps, so to get that out of the way will be a great relief.
Pain wasn't too bad for most of the day, until about 4 when it hit with a venegence, so again i spent the arvo stoned at work from the pain killers. My 2ic thinks it's sooo funny....
Pain isn't too bad now thank god.
Good luck with your piercing darl, if you need any more advice, ask away ok.
Take care, talk to you soon.
Framaine xoxox
Hi Charmaine,
Thanks for the info, I will give the plyers a go.
Yea only a couple of weeks left till my appointment, I am a bit scared of what the outcome will be, not sure what I`ll do if the tubes are blocked. I am meant to be staying with family that night but I think I will wait untill I have the results to decide what to do as I don`t think I would be very good company, If its bad news I will just stay at a hotel so I can be on my own, but if the news is good I will want to tell the world, anyway fingers crossed all turns out well.
Hope all goes well for you guys, the sperm test isn`t that nice but I`m sure your hubby will be fine.
When my hubby had his it was so funny, you gota feel a bit sorry for them though, they send you into a private room with girlie mags and then the TV comes on with a blue movie, thats what happens in Melb anyway, he thought it was all a bit off-putting. He did get the job done though.
Take care and will talk soon
Hi onemore,
Just wanted to ask you if you will get your results straight away when you go in, or will you have to wait???
I am hoping and praying for you that it is a good result.
Also too, how long did it take to get the results from hubby's test??
Bit of a really personal question here, don't answer if you choose, but can i ask did you guys close the fun factory (That's what i call the fun stuff in the bedroom) for a few days before the test was done?? I hear that it is a good thing to do to help increase the chances of a good count.
Anyway, gotta fly, got lots of housework to get done today.
Might pop back in a little later on.
Have a great day darl, take care. Talk soon.
Charmaine xoxoxox
Hi Charmaine, sorry I`ve been realy rude !! please call me Kristy.
The test is done at 12:30 and then I see the Dr at 1:30 for the results, can`t wait but on the other hand I don`t realy want to know !!
The (wiggly) count test results only take about an hour, my hubby had the test then when we went to see the Dr about an hour later he just called the lab and got the results.
From memory the "fun factory" was open but Iv`e heard the little guys are stronger if left for a couple of days so If you want the count to be at it`s peak I`d hold off 2 days prior.
Take care
Kristy xxx
Hi Kristy,
So sorry I haven't been around for a while. Once again, crazy times around here. I could certainly do with another couple of hours a day, and a few more days a week too.
All is good here. How about you darl???? You must be getting pretty excited, yet nervous at the same time. Not long to go at all now.
How is everything with you and your family, are you still feeling the worst that winter has for us, or is it starting to warm up like it is here in sydney???
Oh, how did you go with your piercing????
Talk to you soon, take care
Charmaine xoxo
Hi Charmaine,
I`m ok thanks really nervous I was really hoping to be pg this month and not have to deal with everything else comming up !! wishful thinking.
We are all good here thanks, we spent all of last year in Kununurra WA so are really feeling the cold, starting to wish we never came back to Tassie, we have just started to get some rain the last couple of weeks, the weather is all over the place at the moment.
Havn`t had a go at the peircing yet but will soon.
Hi Kristy,
Have to tell you a funny story, but one that may also at the same time make you feel a little sick too.
Last night at work, a couple in their mid to lat 40's, i think??? came in with their 20 something son.
The son ask me about some body jewellery for a piercing he had done very recently. Silly me asked him where as he didn't have any visable piercings. At that very moment, in the middle of the store, he undid the zip on his jeans and took out his pocket rocket from his pants, and said to his dad, "Cop that dad".
But that's not all,
The father then did the very same thing and revealed to his son that he had the same thing and neither one knew about it.
A mental picture burnt into my memory forever i tell you. Quite alot of people that come in for some reason feel the need to tell us all about their piercings, and some of them tell us their whole life stories too, but never before have i seen that in the middle of the store on a very busy thursday night, and i never want to again either.
Wanna swap jobs by any chance?????
Take care darl, talk son
Charmaine xoxoxox
Oh my !!! my first thought is OUCH and then eww. Would you say that is the most tender area to have a piercing ? or would the female anatomy be worse ? not that I ever intend to go there !!
Talk again real soon
Kristy
Hi Kristy,
As far as the piercings go, I'm not too sure, I only have my ears and my nose done. Mind you i have 3 holes in each ear lobe and 1 up high in my right ear.
When i lose the weight that i am hoping to before i have the op i have told myself that my reward to myself will be getting my belly done. I love them, i think they are really pretty, really feminine.
Unfortunately I am writing this while in bed. I woke up with the worst pain this morning. It didn't go away even when i was at work, so i took off to my doc.
He seemed to think that something is wrong with my right ovary and gave me some more pain killers and some anti-inflammatories. He said that when i see my gyno on thursday there is a good chance that he will put me in hospital and do a laparoscopy...... BUMMER. I hope there's nothing wrong.
Anyway, about you now, how you doing darl, nervous????
I can imagine that you well and truelly are by now. Only days to go now.
Just remember darl I will be thinking of you and here for you. You definately are not alone on this journey...
Take care, all the very best of luck, and i hope next time we talk you will have the very best news.
Bye for now, Charmaine xoxoxox
Hey Charmaine, how are you doing ? hope your feeling better.
I`m feeling pretty good thanks about the test, deep down I think everything will be ok and just need a bit more time, but I also want to be realistic and be ready for the worst outcome if that was to occur.
I finally got the ring out !! I have a set of small tools for jewelry making so used them, first I tried to use the pliers but that would`nt work so I thought stuff it I`ll cut the blasted thing out so got my little cutters and squeezed the ring but it was really hard so had to have another go and the ball shot off like lightning, still havn`t found it !! I would like to have my belly done later on, I think they look really pretty too. I also am trying to loose weight, not having much luck at the moment, it`s too cold to go outside walking can`t wait till it warms up a bit, better chance of falling with a bit less padding around the middle section !! but with work and home and the cold I just don`t seem to have any time left. I try to do 20 mins of exercise dvd every weekday morning, gets a bit boring doing it on your own though. Anyway I think I`ve babbled on enough for tonight so will goand will talk to you again soon. Thanks for being here for me hun.
Kristy xxxx
Hi Charmaine, well I`ve been and had the test. wish I hadn`t, both tubes are blocked and IVF is the only option now. I really can`t believe this has happened It just doesn`t seem fair. I just feel numb inside.
Anyway might go and will catch up later.
Kristy
Oh sweety, I really feel for you. My tears are your tears darl. You were my hope...
I'm not going to be patronising and say, stay strong, and look at the positives, because i know how i would feel if i was told the same.
I guess you and your hubby have a lot of talking to do, and some pretty heavy decisions to make too. I don't know how you guys feel abiut IVF and what your ideas on it are. Whether it is an option for you guys and you will consider giving it a go.
All i can say is, Good luck with it all, and I am always here for you. I wish I knew how we could talk privately, that way i would leave you my other details and we could talk properly, well at least voice to voice.
Please, please, please take care darl. WIll talk again real soon.
Charmaine xoxoxo
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