here's hoping this time, you will get a perfectionist medico, not a dodgy one. I wish you a speedy recovery.

I would treat it like having a baby, you know you'll be out of action, so maybe
- automate what you can (bill paying, cleaner, shopping delivered),
- do ahead what you can (stocking pantry/freezer with pre=cooked meals, stocking up on non-perishables e.g loo paper),
- let people in your support network (if you are lucky enough to have them, not everyone does) know about your op (they might offer playdates/walk the dog whatever needs doing).
- use paper plates to cut down on dishwashing?

i'm guessing the five yo might be in kindy or school, can you optimise childcare/daycare (or increase it) for the duration of your post op time , for the two year old? Both of those still need the drop off/pick ups. Unless you have friends/family members who would do that for you. Or family/friends who would look after one or two children for you each day.

best of luck honey, i know you're scared, this op is coming, you need it, and you will get thru it.

you have a legitimate reason for being scared, you have had ten years to understand how it can go wrong, i don't blame you for being scared, i would be too. Let the hospital know you have had a prior bad experience. I hope you have faith in the surgeon who will operate on you THIS time.

we/re all thinking of you.