Thankyou all so very much for taking the time out to answer my questions, I sincerely appreciate every word

Thankyou all for explaining more about the treatment as I really didn't understand, I assumed there would be some variation as I had heard some drugs cause weight gain, others hair loss and so on, but not to the extent that you have all explained including the different proceedures etc.

I will speak with her daughter, as she will be able to let me know what both mum and dad would really appreciate, that way I can keep any extras a surprise from them I am really gglad I asked the question about foods and drinks as I thought it was going to be a silly question, but it is really clear that it wasn't and there is a lot to understand and take into consideration. The suggestions have been really useful and I would have ended up with an inappropriate gift if hadn't asked I will print out some photos of us as well, we has some lovely shots taken as Christmas time which would be perfect.

In relation to illness it is the same as catching up with our prem friends, any sniffle and it is a no go zone, we jsut can't take the risks and we have missed out on a lot of catchups for this very reason. So I will definitely boost the Vitamin C over the next couple of weeks and I pray that we are all well when we go over.

Is it worth using Aquim?

I am definitely hands on, I'm usually doing three or four thing as once, so I will be definitely helping out as much as I can, and I really enjoy doing it as it is a great time to chat, hopefully I can mkae her sit down and relax as well. We are all pretty chilled out, so it should be all good. We aren't fussy or picky or anything so that is going to make it a lot easier as well.

MD thankyou for that little bit of information at the end, it will become invaluable as it will make it easier to understand. Thankyou very much for sharing what you experienced, you are amazing!

Ezy thankyou so much for sharing your experience with your DH, it must have been such a difficult few years

LimeSlice, thankyou so much for sharing information from the pallative point of view, you have shared a wealth of information and I really appreciate it, I had no idea about gardening, flowers etc as well, I will definitely remember that, being a landscape architect.

Thankyou MrsMac, your suggestions are really lovely, and thankyou for sharing what your mum experienced

Thankyou Christy, you have given me some really useful information, I will definitely go on a hunt for some lovely organic chocolate and preservative free wine, surely there is some in SA

Thankyou all once again I really appreciate the time you all took to help me out, and sharing your own knowledge and experiences has been invaluable to me and subsequently my God Mother