Thanks for your respnses, I have passed them along to my sil and she is ready to go into battle for herself on Mnday and has made a nice clear list of what she wants to happen including having everything explained to her, a plan of action for when bub is born including whether or not she should be induced and if she should travel to brisbane to have the baby so they aren't seperated if the baby needs a higher level of care then they can give her at the regional hospital and also asking for weekly scans to check on bubs progress. Fingers crossed she gets some well deserved answers, will keep you updated.

Michelle, thanks for your response

Ryn thank you also it is good to know that it is not common as the midwife saying this made them feel really stupid.