I was thinking about this some more, and I think the dream with BIL (dismembered in a bucket) might be because I feel he has lost some direction of late, and is, in a sense, just made up of parts: father, worker, partner etc. For some time I have been concerned he has lost a sense of 'self' and so maybe thats what the dream means??? He is now fragmented into parts, rather than an authentic identity itms?

So, now I am tempted to say something, but i know DH won't like that analysis at all (he is understandably protective of his family). I have BIL phone number, but honestly, would anyone like to hear that?? I am close to SIL, but that kind of information would freak her out, because she's having a tough time atm...

No replies needed. I just needed to get that out...