thanks ZF i have asked her to get more info unfortunatey her dad passed a week ago and she feels it might be him but cant tell what he looks like, is it too soon after a passing to see them??
i wonder if its him or someone else?? i dont see them at all and she says its because hes attatched to her. most male relatives on her side are still earth bound. she is certainly assertive when she is asking them to leave, she has yelled it, spoke it wrote a note and posted a status on FB. she has now asked me to help her ?????

wow you would have been scared knowing somone was talking to your DD did he leave in the end??