2 miscarriages where to go from here?

[Tara-Jane]

Hi all

im a 23 year young lady and have just suffered by second miscarriage in 6 months, the first one was blighted ovum at 8 weeks and d & C at 10 weeks.
We started looking into ivf due to my husbands low count but found out we were naturally expecting before we even had the chance for going back to our 2nd appointment.

Everything was going alone nicely until i went in for my 2nd us at what i thought was 7 weeks and 2 days but only measured at 3mm, i was told u cant see a heartbeat until 4 mm but the ob basically told me to expect to miscarriage between now and next week... ppl were giving me hope by saying maybe i had a tilted uterus and that can affect the size of the embryo but i have started to bleed so that has dashed all of my hopes.

i just want to know where do i go from here, im not too sure as to whether i have to have another d&c as i have to back to the ob on tuesday to see whether it has seperated away or not

i also have concerns as to whether my blood type will be adding to the problems as i have rhesus negative.There is so many questions no one can answer, i thought the first time was hard and maybe i would be ok if it happened again but the second time is so much worse.

I just want oppinions on whether i should keep trying naturally or maybe look into ivf again???

thanks

[fourthontheway]

I'm sorry for your loss.

In the last 2 years I have miscarried 6 times and never had a d+c. I figure if my body can birth a baby, it can birth a teeny tiny baby just as efficiently. An early miscarriage is just like a period, sometimes a little heavier.

I never sought fertility treatment, I saw a naturopath and spent two months taking a remedy called vitex, and am now just over 3 months pregnant.

Lots of love to you, I'm very sorry for your loss.

[Alice]

Tara-Jane,

I'm so sorry you've been through this twice and so close together. It must be a very hard time for you.

I don't know if I can help you with your questions - my friend has rhesus -ive and I know it did have an impact on her second pregnancy but how it contributes (or not) to miscarriage, I really don't know I'm sorry.

It's a hard call about whether to go down the IVF road or not but they will advise you on that when they see you. My husband and I were in our early 30s when we first saw a fertility specialist and he advised us to keep trying on our own for a while longer. I guess you could see it as an information gathering session and you could make a decision afterwards. I would also recommend seeing a naturopath as suggested. When you've spoken to both (and they are not necessarily mutually exclusive options - you can work with both at the same time) you will have a better idea of what you feel is the right path for you and your husband.

Take care and all the best and once again, I'm sorry for your losses.

Alice x