Tanya... Wish I could hug you and hold you in person. I understand very well how you feel - it sucks and it's bloody hard...

Firstly it takes 4-6 weeks to grow these results - nothing can accelerate this - it is all done in a petrie dish and it takes time. Unfortunately if nothing grows then it will be inconclusive.

I need to say that it is highly highly unlikely that this has happened becuase you can't carry boys. There is a very very rare condition that can cause this - so rare that even me with my photographic memory can't remember the name of it! It's rare. I know that colloquially we hear of Great Aunt Edna not being able to have boys etc etc. But medically I know this not to be the case usually. It's not that simple.

I know that Banjo's pregnancy was a surprise. Were you on folate prior to conception? If so what doseage? You have had multiple pregnancies which utilise a significant amount of your folate stores. Folate is required prior to conception to be most effective - this is why all women of reproductive age are advised to take it all the time. So it's possible that you did not have that cover. Neural Tube Defects are preventable around 92% of the time with folate consumption prior to conception. Sometimes there is an interruption to the development very early on and this can cause a NTD.

I know this is going to sound empty and not helpful - but sometimes there is just no reason. Without knowing the whole story - it sounds like Banjo may have had ancephaly which is incompatable with life. This happens and it would not matter if he was a little boy or a little girl. It just tragically happens.

I recommend that you begin on megafol wich is 5mgs of folate - this needs to be taken with b12. Spirulina and some floradix would also be highly recommended. Your body has been through a lot and needs to be nurtured inside and out.

I was unable to have genetic testing on my little boy - he too was clearly a little boy but they couldn't grow any cells. We did know that both my daughters were genetically fine.

Neural Tube Defects will not show up on the chromosomal analysis. So this is something that you may never know...

Just know you are constantly in my thoughts and prayers...