Can anyone help? I dont know where to look for answers....
I think we are getting Ad a vasectomy....
I just couldn't go through all this again.... butthen I pull out all the nappies and baby clothes, or see a baby, and I still dont feel "finished" yet....
How can i search for answers?? I just dont beleive it was "one of those things" in our case.... and I need all I can possibly know before deciding that any more pregnancies is simply a bad idea, once I know that, the decision will be easier...
Seven died at 15 w, and we found out at 17 w.. they gave us no idea why... she looked perfect.
Isaiah died at 15+3, and we found out at 18w... he had a lot of fluid on his heart and brain.....but otherwise, perfect too....
Does anyone know what this may be?? Googling is just silly, it brings up too much stuff not relevant..
If this something that will probably keep happening, or worse, we'll get to 40 wks and have a very deformed child that has no chance/quality of life, i would be devastated and would go ahead with the vasectomy... but if something could be done before conception, a vasectomy is too harsh and final just yet.... this is jumbled sorry, my head is VERY jumbled at the moment....
I have no idea, but I think it would be a good idea for you to talk to someone.
Have you had counselling? Maybe you can ask to be referred to a specialist or someone who might have some answers. I can understand your wanting to know before you make any decisions, and I don't think making any permanent decisions would be a good idea ATM.
Do you know if they took any tissue samples for testing for genetic problems? If Isaiah had extra fluid, it could have been a sign of a congential problem. But unfortunately there may never be a reason and it may never happen again but you may not know that until you try again I wish I had some clear answers for you.
With 2 second trimester losses, I would suggest getting a full blood workup for miscarriage. There are a number of autoimmune conditions that can occur despite previous normal pregnancies. Late losses should be investigated to see if there is a simple cause that can be treated, many times with something as easy as aspirin. In my case, I have a clotting disorder that required aspirin. Others require clexane (I am allergic to it) which also has an immunosupressive component as well as the anticoagulant effect.
Inanna will hopefully pop in and offer her suggestions. At this stage I would hold off on the vasectomy, head down the path of blood tests to check for a cause and then re-evaluate together
Can anyone help? I dont know where to look for answers....
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Hope someone can give you some advice.
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