Commemoration Ideas

[Melinda]

This thread is for ideas on how to commemorate your angel baby.

Have you found a special and unique way to commemorate your angel baby, or are looking for something special? Please share your thoughts and ideas here.

What did you do, or are you thinking about doing?

Some things that I found very therapeutic were:

~ Writing poems
~ Buying a special pot plant or plant for the garden
~ Writing a letter
~ Putting together a keepsake box

[Baby~amore`]

~ Keeping a Journal
~ Frame Birth Certificate (after 20weeks) or
~ Certificate of Life (from Teddy Love Club)
~ Name Meaning Certificate
~ Photos of the flowers received
~ Copies of Ultrasound pictures
~ Drawn Images of Baby -yours or professionally done (please e-mail me if you would like details on this)
~ Planting a garden in memory of Baby (family & friends can give plants /roses as a living memory)
~ Getting a plaque made for Baby
~ Garden sculpure or ornament
~ Creating a Scrapbook or Memory album
~ Buy a piece of Jewellery & having it engraved
~ Getting a Tattoo (I am too chicken)
~ Choosing a special ornament, painting, picture in memory of your Baby for your home
~Sunrise or sunset on day of baby's birth

Some of these I was able to do and some I want to do but have not got around to doing

[DramaQueen]

~~ Certificate of Life (from Teddy Love Club)

I have looked on their website and cant find anything about this .... can anyone tell me where to get one please?

[Leyza]

I miscarried our twins on 5th May and it was very important for me to have something for them. I searched the shops for a locket and wanted to have it engraved with the date and "B1 & B2" which is what we dubbed them after finding out about them. After a bit of a search I found a double compartment locket. It has two sides to it, the front can open up and the back can too and when the whole thing is opened there are two flat panels on the inside. Well on the front I had engraved "B1 & B2", the back is the date we lost them and on the inside panels I have an inscription that reads " Our two beautiful little angels", and each side of the locket has a butterfly charm in it, to symbolise the twins. The butterflies are because when I was in the ward after the d&c, I kept seeing two butterflies flying together in the trees just outside my window and it made me think of my twins. Whenever I think of them, I touch the locket and give it a rub, and it makes me feel better. I love that I found a special double locket for the twins as it was very important to me to have something that symbolised two angel babies. I also have kept my pregnancy tests, blood test sheet, referral for scans, just anything that involved the pregnancy. They were due on the 25th November and I want to organise a butterfly releasing ceremony for the day. So that's how I am moving forward. But it is hard everyday.

[Tildy]

I bought myself a charm bracelet and three glass heart charms. Two large ones, one blue and one yellow, to represent me and DH, and a smaller green one to represent Beiron. The green heart is clipped on between the other two. Sadly, when we were up at DH's parents for Midsommar the blue one broke off somewhere. That was a little hard to take, because I was still very depressed and in a dark place at the time, and I felt like it was just too symbolic that I'd "lost myself". I had to leave the party when I discovered it because I was so upset. I went back to the jewelry store and got a new one, but they only had small blue hearts, so now I have a bracelet where DH's heart is bigger than the others... typical him!

When I'm sitting and thinking I often fiddle with the little hearts between my fingers, especially when I'm at my counselor's, I've noticed.

Tomorrow I'm going back to the jewelry store to pick up a new addition for our new bubs.

I have vacation without DH coming up in September, right before Beiron's EDD (the vacation had been booked in as a start to my maternity leave), and I will be spending it creating a new garden in our back yard. I think I will plant bulbs there on Beiron's EDD, and the flowers should pop up and bloom right when our new bubs is due.

[briggsy's girl]

i have a rose in the garden for each of our angel babies, a tattoo on my left shoulder blade for our first two angels, and a gold bracelet for our third. DH and I are planning on getting another tattoo for our other two angels at some point, just not sure when as we're continuing with fertility treatment and can't get a tattoo if pregnant

[kirsty]

During & after we lost Alex I kept a journal ~ only wish I had gotten off my butt & kept it from the time we found out we were pg (I kept one with James' pg but just never got around to doing one for Alex).

We also have photos from just after he was born which have gone into a keepsake box with his memory book from the hospital, the clothes he wore & his blankets. It also contains a teddy that one of my dearest gf's bought for him, plus it has all the cards that we received from people.

I have bought a garden angel ~ am yet to actually make a garden for him as we are talking of moving (either buying or building) soon & I don't want to put all that effort in & then move. But when we are settled permanently then I will be doing it.

Last Christmas DH bought me a necklace with a letter "A" on it with diamonds to remember him. Loads of people ask my why the A & when I explain they all go "what a beautiful thing to do".

Plus every day I wear my "mother & baby" angel pin that my mum bought for me while we were in hospital waiting to see what would happen.

Ooooh I forgot that a gf got us a frame with the meaning of his name in it for us & that is on display on one of our tables with loads of family photos on it.

[kazz30]

I printed up some poems and made it into a folder for my first m/c and Matthew. With Matthew's I added his u/s photos to the front cover.
I also bought 2 guardian angel pins, one for September when I had my first m/c and a March one for when we lost Matthew. Everywhere I go I wear then next to my heart so I know they are with me wherever I go.

Trish, I love all the ideas you have come up with.

[Mel09]

We are yet to do our little rememberence thing, but the idea is, on my eternity ring I will have a diamond for each of us, one for our MC (hopefully only one) one for each child, and one for DH and one for me...

They will be 'hammer set' and be equally placed around the ring.

I will have each of us with me all the time...

[Lucy]

I have a box full of all the littel things from my first pregnancy: my pregnancy test, my pregnancy journal, some little clothes that I had bought, cards from friends etc. It is in the top of my wardrobe and I add an letter to my Little Sprog every year, on the date of my loss (19th July). I get the box down very rarely, becasue it makes me cry my heart out, but in a theraputic way, IYKWIM?

Also, we planted an olive tree in our front garden in our old house in Adelaide. The house is going to be demolished in a few months and we are building on the block, but Andrew has already promised to re-plant the tree. We don't live there at the moment, but I often go out of my way to drive past and check our tree! (It is looking so beautiful & sturdy and strong). The memory of Andrew planting that tree will stay with me forever.

[Antheia]

I bought a christmas decoraion for the tree and it has a baby angel on it, so our angel is remembered very christmas...

[shuett]

I have a website that publishes memorials online. These are great because family and friends from all over the world can visit.

Its a completely free non profit service and you can contact me for the address.

Regards, Sandy

[diva det]

i was wondering if you guys could hep me. My friend lost her baby at 38 weeks. Her placenta tore away and her little girl died. She had to give birth etc.

I want to get her a plant as a memorial. Does anyone have any ideas about what type of plant to get her that has a name - etc that is fitting. She named her little girl Jasmin - so i didn't know if there was even something with her name in it.

Also, i read some of your poems that were absolutely beautiful but there were so many of them. Does anyone know a good one off the top of their head that would be suitable to give in this situation

many thanks in advance.

[Michelle71]

There is a lovely smelling rose called "Mother's Love" that I was given before Caitlyn was born.

I also had a star named for her through the observatory in Sydney (but I am sure they would be done elsewhere). The star will return each year for around 6 weeks either side of the date you choose, which could be the baby's birth date, EDD or some other date that is important. It was important for me as it gave me a permanent momento of her existence.

[Baby~amore`]

I am so sorry for your friend's loss. You are very caring friend to think of her.

There is also the Children's rose (soft pink) and Angel Face ( deeper pink and very pretty frilly petals)

I would read through the poems and see what you like best or print the lot off for her.

Jasmin is a fragrant bush too - very easily available.

Trish
"~♥~ DD Charlotte Rose 1/9/04 26wks ~♥~"
Expecting IVF twins July 06

[Lisa]

One thing i did as a memorial to ~Noah~ was to sponsor a child. We lost our son, and i felt that i needed to give another child the chance to live.

I dont really know how to explain it, but it felt like something i needed to do.

Lisa

[Lisa]

One thing i did as a memorial to ~Noah~ was to sponsor a child. We lost our son, and i felt that i needed to give another child the chance to live.

I dont really know how to explain it, but it felt like something i needed to do.

Lisa

Since this post (which was written 2 months after losing Noah) I have done a few things. I donate money monthly to TLC in Noah's name and when I can remember I donate teddies. I buy an angel for Noah every Christmas, and for his birthday I buy either an angel or something Noah's Ark. DH & I also got matching tattoos which are ambigrams that say 'Noah' when we look at them and 'Angel' when read upside down. I got a small little star tattooed on my ankle for my first miscarriage. I am sure there are other things I have done but I can't think of them right now.

[MistyFying]

Welcome, TylersMummy.

And Lisa, I love your child sponsorship idea. What a beautiful way to remember Noah.