Bec again I am so sorry for your losses.

I had 2 m/c's before my ectopic pregnancy and the ectopic by far was the worst pain emotionally and physically I felt. It took me a long time to recover from the lap to remove bub and my tube. I did have complications during and just after the surgery. Physically it was a good 6weeks for the discomfort to subside and 8weeks until I returned to work (this isn't mentioning the emotional pain) I did a HPT about 2weeks post ectopic surgery at 8.5weeks and the HPT was negative. I did find my pregnancy symptoms went quickly afterwards however which was a relief as I had strong symptoms from the time I was told I'd m/c until the pregnancy was diagnosed ectopic. I also ovulated again 17days after my surgery but we were not ttc again at this time and AF was only a few days later then what it would have been if AF arrived the day of my surgery if that makes sense. Once out of the surgery (in hospital) I had some spotting and then had a full flow of bleeding which lasted 10days 3days post surgery. I think from memory I ovulated only a day or so after the bleeding had vanished.

As I had a pelvic infection I was on antibiotics for 3weeks post surgery which then led to bowel problems and because of some bodged up suturing I had an infection where the lap wounds were despite the antibiotics I was on for the internal infection. This could have been why my physical recovery took longer then one would expect. I was unable to DTD with DH for a month post surgery because of the pain I was in (then when I finally could stand it it really made my emotionally pain worse as we had spent the past yr and abit ttc and when that was no longer happening and I was no longer pregnant it was really hard)

During my surgery they discovered I had an infection which had caused the ectopic and the reason why I had trouble falling pregnant and when I did I m/c the first two bubs followed by the ectopic. Despite not having hydrosalphinx they said my tube was toxic causing my pregnancies not to be successful which is why i was then put on high doses of antibiotics and had a 2nd lot of surgery 9weeks after my ectopic to try and repair some damage and flush my remaining tube which was said to be in bad shape.

Close to a yr after this ordeal we were very fortunate to get our next BFP which has been a sticky. Feel free to ask anything you may want to know. I found the ectopic pregnancy trust very supportive (uk forum for just those effected by EP) and would recommend joining it.

Once again I am sorry you have been through this and hope your recovery is kind to you