I am hoping i am posting this in the right section if not please fell free to move me along. Thank you.

I am an Aunty to a beautiful little boy who passed away at 14 months of age and i have decided that each Birthday & Christmas i would make a donation in memory of him. I haven't wanted to choose one particular charity as there are so many about worthy of help.

I am curious to know if this would be seen as a resepectful, kind gesture in memory of my nephew in the eyes of a parent who has lost a child? In my heart i feel i am doing an honorable thing in memory of him but in a parents eyes is it the same?

I am a bit confused as i donated to the Starlight Foundation in memory of his Birthday this year and they had an option where i could send a card notifying someone of the donation being made. So i did this to my brother and his partner, with a message to say the donation has been made in memory of my nephews 2nd Birthday. I got a thank you from my brother but i have never had any mention of this from his partner at all. I know we could assume that she's just thinking my brother said thank you so she doesn't need to but i would have dearly loved to hear her say thank you to me also. Not in a selfish way, in a way so that i know she approves of what i'm doing for her son. I am worried that she doesn't approve of what i am trying to do.

So i would love some honest opinions on if you think this is the kind and loving gesture that i thought it was. I planned on doing this for many years.

Thanks ladies