Firstly what you said in this post sounds perfect. i would facebook her that exact statement and let her deal with it the way she wants. My first response was to say that it would probably be very healing for her to hold your little man and have a good cry! It will probably be as your son grows that she will feel the greater pain. 1st birthdays and the like....
Good luck and i am so sorry that you have to deal with this at this time too!
Just to let you all know, I sent her a PM last night on facebook and an SMS today saying that I'm thinking of her and the family and I'm here when she feels ready. I'll give it a month and then let her know I'm still thinking of her.
I hope she and I can still be friends but I understand if she finds it too hard.
My son was only just born still this past weekend, and the most comforting thing for me has been being around other babies. I had a huge cuddle with my cousin's one-month-old yesterday, and it cheered me up immensely. Even just after we found out he wouldn't be born alive, because I was on the delivery ward, I could hear other women in labour. I got to hear someone else's baby's first cry, and it was the sweetest sound I'd heard.
However, on Monday (when I had to leave Ianto) hearing the other babies in the ward was upsetting, I will admit that...
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