i feel a little bit that way about my m/c as well. Mine was at 7 weeks, so too early to tell if it was a boy or girl. People tried to make me feel better by saying things like it was really early, etc, but i still knew i was pregnant for 3 weeks. up until the day that i miscarried, i was walking around with symptoms, like a tiny bump and morning sickness, etc. and apparently the heart starts beating at 5 weeks, so it was still a 'living' baby you know? i think the idea of unisex names is a great idea. and to you, im so sorry for your loss. sometimes its hard when you feel like everyone has moved on except you. hope you choose a name that helps you feel better