:hug: pp so sorry you had to go through this. It's not fair. Sending you thoughts and love xoxo
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:hug: pp so sorry you had to go through this. It's not fair. Sending you thoughts and love xoxo
So sad to hear of your experience. Holding the space for you to grieve for your pregnancy and your tube. Go gently.
Have no idea how to manage the pain with just panadol, ibuprofen and tramadol (100mg) every time I move I hurt.
PP- sorry to hear you are in so much pain, physically and emotionally. Did they say how long to expect to feel discomfort?
Hoping only a few days like this... Can't stand it!
Feeling numb emotionally now.
Hugs PP, is there anything stronger they can give you to help with the pain?
Not sure, I will ring the hospital today and ask.
PP with my experience of a MC and major complications afterwards, I found the physical pain was worse because of the trauma and emotional experience being so bad. It's just one day at a time working through what you have experienced. Even over a year later I can still feel a deep grief and pain at times. Thinking of you x
:-( didn't sleep well at all. Woke hubby and cried a few times.
I haven't been taking my pain killers as I should apparently that's why it's been hurting badly. Feeling the pain makes it so real... If you know what I mean. I woke this morning hoping it was a dream... It wasn't. I've still got patches on my belly, still bruises on my arms from the ivs... no baby in my belly, instead im now empty... And only one remaining tube.
PP I hope you have gotten your aim under control, did you get something stronger? I find mersyndol night is great and also helps with the sleeping as well as pain. I have also had my dh have panadol and restavit which is on over the counter sleeping tablet together which helped him after surgery. I just usually check with the chemist as sometime you can mix a couple safely so pain is managed really well.
I am so sorry you are in so much pain which is also reminding you constantly of everything you have lost. Cuddle your hubby and cry and I have no doubt he will help you get through this babe and we are all here to xoxoxo
Once again I'm so sorry PP. After my surgery it took a good 6-8weeks to physically recover for me perhaps made worst by the fact I was at a very hard time in my life as my ectopic was my 3rd loss in over a year and I discovered why that had happened during my surgery. I then got a bowel abcess 3weeks later as a complication from the surgery. At that stage I couldn't see another pregnancy in the future or hope of having the baby we desperately wanted. I felt guilty I couldn't give DH a baby and then quit my job as a midwife as I couldn't cope working in that field. The hope was gone initially and the pain from that only one could understand that had been there before.
Allow yourself to grieve as you need to. There is no right or wrong way. There will be a time when things get easier xx
Again I am just so sorry PP. Take it easy on yourself. and please take the painkillers - your in enough emotional pain you don't need to bare the physical as well. xoxox
Just did another frer after the OP 2 days ago. Still positive. Need to hide them away. Hope it goes negative soon. I just want to forget about it. The pain sucks. There are so many reminders that I'm not pregnant anymore...
PP hugs x
It takes a while for hcg to drop from your body, I like you did the same after my loss and found once I saw the complete negative it helped me move on but it also messes with your head to.
Be kind to yourself, you will never forget but it will ease over time beautiful xo
Thanks hun.:
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I had a mm/c rather than ectopic, but I tested weekly after the d&c. After 1 week, the hpt was still positive, but it was negative 2 weeks after the d&c. It can take longer for some women, but my point is, if you want to test, don't test daily because it could stick around for a while. Maybe test again in a week so your body has some time to metabolise the hcg and get rid of it.
And, in the meantime, remember, they've removed a part of an organ, so take it easy and don't push yourself to recover on an unrealistic schedule. It's going to take a while. Use the pain meds as directed and get as much help as you can so that you can rest. :hug:
Seeing the doctor this morning.
I feel empty and very sore physically. Off to get more pain killers, they didn't discharge me with many at all.
I'm also going to ask for a sedative as I keep waking at night and am unable to get back to sleep. I think the grief is so overwhelming at the moment. I don't really want to deal with it.... I just want it gone. Like my tube, I wish it was cut out of me like my baby & tube was... Then maybe I wouldn't feel this way and could get on with my life.
Hugs pp, I can't even imagine what you are going through, but thinking of you and sending lots of hugs xxxx
I think the sedatives are a good idea, if you're constantly waking you'll never get rest & the extra stress is not good for healing. Big hugs xxx
How did you go at the doctor, did they give you something to help you sleep?
They didn't give me any sedatives. Just adjusted my pain meds slightly.
If I still have trouble sleeping I am to go back soon.
Are you getting any professional support (eg counselling) from anyone? Perhaps that could help more in the long run than sedatives. I struggled with a lot of depression for weeks after our mm/c and that was without losing a part of my own body. As much as it hurts, you need to work through the grief rather than hide from it. I can tell, even from here, that you're having a very hard time and I'd really encourage you to talk to someone, if you're not already doing so. I wish I could do more to help.
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If you want to try something talk to the pharmacist about what you are already taking and restavit and see if you can take together you don't need a script and they are great, just in idea if you don't want to go back to doctors at the moment. I feel for you and hope you get some rest soon babe xoxo
I will be seeing a psych after this all.
I might go speak to the pharmacist. Sleep deprivation doesn't help.
Update... Can't sleep again tonight. :-( need to book into psych and see Dr again asap.
Hey PP how are you? have you been getting some sleep yet, I hope so. I definitely think it is worth seeing a phsych when you are ready to talk things through and help you to digest everything.
Not really great hun. Thanks for checking up on me.
I will update when I can but a fair few things have happened during my recovery.
hope you are ok xo
I've been thinking of you too. Sorry to hear there have been other issues. Hope the worst is behind you. :hug:
Hugs pp, you are still in my thoughts too.
Sorry ladies. I'm getting there slowly. I had a lot of bleeding and clotting. The mirena was inserted while I was under the GA having the tube & pregnancy taken out.
My body was trying to expel it. I had to go to the ER of the same hospital because my GP couldn't find strings, the ultrasound showed it was malpositioned and yeah that's apparently why I was bleeding so bad, had so much pain and huge clots. I had it removed and a blood test taken to check my haemoglobin because I've lost a lot of blood over the past week.
It's also been really hard because I had busted my stitches in my belly button (by coughing) and it blooming hurts. I have to keep putting steristrips over it because it isn't quite closed... It hurts! and I'm still not allowed to pick my little girl up 1 week and 3 days down... About 2.5 to 3 weeks to go apparently according to the surgical team...
To put the icing on the cake... My sil is just over 13 weeks pregnant and I should be around 8.5 to 9 weeks, but instead I'm grieving the loss of my bubba... Didn't know if it was going to be a boy or a girl... Didnt have scans given to me... And grieving part of my fertility being taken away from me. Not to mention the physical aspect of healing from surgery. I keep getting text messages reminding me of that fact that she's pregnant still. :-( I don't want to put a downer on her pregnancy... But I can't keep going I've asked her to give me a bit of space and my mother in law too as they are both understandably ecstatic about her pregnancy so yeah...not much more I can do. Is there? Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for her and her DH, but I'm alowed to grieve my loss, aren't I?
Hugs and Love
Absolutely you are allowed to grieve, and I think they will probably understand at some level, I think telling them you need space was a good idea.
So so so sorry beautiful
be kind to yourself xox
honey you have the right to grieve as much as you need to. *hugs*
Thanks everyone for the support again xx
Suppose I'm just having a few bad moments today... Things better look up tomorrow. Exhausted from this all.
You have had a really tough recovery PP :hug:
I am sorry that you are facing the added grief of a loss while someone so close to you is celebrating a pregnancy. It is so so tough. I have been there and it hurts, hurts so bad :(
Do you eat meat? I can highly recommend making yourself a nourishing bone broth. This is what my naturopath recommended after my PPH and i was so so flat but that broth was amazingly reinforcing.
Much love and go gently with yourself, you are grieving loss and yes, you are allowed and should be given the space to grieve :hug:
PP you have not only been through this awful loss but to have the extra complication as well must have been so hard. I am glad they have figured it out and hopefully that side of things will mend soon.
I hope getting to talk with someone this week helps you a little.
Rest up and take care of yourself xoxo
You absolutely should take the time to grieve. You've lost so much; bottling that up will only cause you more pain in the long run. I hope your ILs understand and respect your request for a little space.
Sorry to hear you've had so many complications. I hope you will have a much faster recovery now that those problems have been addressed.
I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time. It really sucks. Whilst I probably didnt openly grieve after my ectopic, it did affect me badly. I'm pretty sure any friend who had a baby in the six months afterwards didn't hear from me. I just couldnt deal with it. Not nice, but what I needed for my survival.
I think it's perfectly OK to ask your SIL to stop talking about her pregnancy with you. This may seem rude, but at 13 weeks, what's there to talk about anyway, that you need to send someone constant texts? Apart from being insensitive, it's kind of boring.