Thank you everyone for your kind comments and for sharing your stories, and losses, here with me. The support you've given me has been so generous, I really appreciate it.
Well I'm glad I kept the appointment - the doctor was lovely and talked with me for over half an hour. She went through everything I had been feeling and reinforced what so many of you have said here - it's very normal and everyone is different. We talked about previous loss and about the episodes of depression I have had in the past and some of the warning signs. So far seems like it is a normal grief response but she wants to see me again in few weeks just to make sure I'm traveling OK. She also suggested maybe doing a little ceremony and I found the idea of that very comforting so I will think it through some more.
I'm so relieved to have a GP up here who at last has my full medical history and who has a specific focus on womens health. She wasn't at all judgmental about IVF which was one of my irrational fears, in fact she was very understanding and knowledgeable. So I'm feeling a lot better and more reassured that everything is OK. It was good to be reminded, strangely, that it won't pass quickly, that it will take time and feel very up and down, and some days will feel like I'm going backward, but it will eventually lessen.
Hi Lovely, sorry to hear that you are feeling like this .
Very happy to hear you have found such a lovely doctor to speak with though & someone who has an interest in womens health specifically.
I think its fairly normal from what you have described. I have to say that it crossed my mind after my mc too, I have also had a few bouts of depression in the past. I just kept waiting to feel better.................................... & waiting......................................... & waiting & when it didn't happen right away I worried that I might be heading that way again.
Coming down off the 'happy PG hormones' is a bit of a rude awakening to your body, but just hang in there & see how you are feeling after your body settles down & the bleeding eases up.
I feel heaps brighter now that mine has started to settle. Hopefully yours will very soon too.
as other have said i dont think what you are feeling goes, you just manange it within your life
Im glad you are happy with you GP.
it is normal for you to be feeling this way i know it took me months to get help and it wasnt until i did that i looked back and thought i really needed that sooner. be kind to yourself while you heal
Last edited by Loula; February 5th, 2010 at 08:57 AM.
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Secondly, there is no timeline for grief, it is just something you do, then when it's over you know. Don't place expectations on yourself, you can't plan the unknown. Just feel what you feel, cry when you need to, and make sure to go gently on yourself while you grieve.
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