Frist i don't know if this is the wrong place to put this or not.
I had a miss misscarriage a month ago and so the hosptial that i had to d and c at offers to bury the lil one i was 5 and half weeks along. So i went to the cematary today and i totally lost it. I had to pull over 5 times before i got home and its not that far from were it is. My b/f thinks that i am over reacting and that i should not have gone that it was a bad idea. And the most hurt ful thing of all never accepted it to be a baby becosue i was in his words only 5 and half weeks along. I am in the wrong for being so upset.
oh honey you are NOT in the wrong and he has no right to make you feel that way you have just lost your child whether it be 2 weeks along or full term it is still you child and you have every right to mourn the loss of such an angel.
I am so sorry you are going through this, we are all here for you to cry, vent, yell & scream, get it all out dont hold it in.
Sweetie, What a hard thing for you to do. It is so sad to loose a baby, no matter what stage you are at. You had to go and say goodbye to all the hopes and dreams that you had in those few short weeks. It is harder for the blokes, to feel the loss sometimes. They don't have that momentary rush when you get the bfp, and that feeling of motherhood that comes with growing a baby. But I know that feeling and share your sadness. fly free little one. xoxo
You are most definitely not in the wrong. Your boyfriend is for telling you that you are. I just read one of your other posts where you said if you didn't go somewhere with him, he'd "sleep around"... Is that true? Or did you end up going with him?
Babyloss, no matter how far along you are, is painful. Some do feel it more than others, or express their pain differently, but it hurts.
i think you had quite an appropriate reaction!!
Your boyfriend needs to be a little more sensitive towards you rigth now. maybe he is hurting badly also and doesnt know how to deal with it?
Bih sweetheart! i am so sorry for your loss
xx
Yes i did go. He might be hurting but in his way of thinking that its not a life until you hold the baby. And its making me see him for who he really is. I had been trying for such a long time to get pregnate and i thought it was my break. But everything was taken away from me.
I struggled to understand how I could feel so devastated at losing a baby so early (10 weeks). Once I accepted that it was okay to grieve the loss of my baby, I began to heal.
You are mother to a little life, even if you only had a brief time together. But not only have you lost a baby, you've lost all the dreams you had of what your life could have been like.
Your boyfriend is wrong to make you feel wrong. But perhaps he just sees you hurting and doesn't want anything to cause you more pain. If he loves you he'll hold you when you cry, listen to you rant and give you time to heal. If he doesn't do that, that's what we're here for
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What a hard thing for you to do. It is so sad to loose a baby, no matter what stage you are at. You had to go and say goodbye to all the hopes and dreams that you had in those few short weeks. It is harder for the blokes, to feel the loss sometimes. They don't have that momentary rush when you get the bfp, and that feeling of motherhood that comes with growing a baby. But I know that feeling and share your sadness.
i am so sorry for your loss
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