I went from..

[ElleJay]

..knowing a week ago that I'm pregnant, to going to the doctors and him saying that I've miscarried.

I've only known about this baby for a week, and it's broken my heart. As soon as they said 'Its likely you've miscarried' I just burst into tears + felt like wanting to hang myself.. I'm so lucky I've got the best partner in the world.
I went and had an ultrasound yesterday and they said that they couldn't see anything in my uterus, that there was no sac or anything.
I'm hoping that it might be because I got the dates wrong, and that it was too early to see, because I still got a positive test on Monday when I took that one, but I'm not getting my hopes up

[cruemum]

You poor love. Glad you have caring partner.
I am feeling for you.

[ElleJay]

Thankyou - I remember after the ultrasound when they said it was a suspected miscarriage just going numb, then when my partner came to the place where I was getting it done, I burst into tears as soon as I saw him

[britkane8]

lizjessie

im so sorry to hear hun. i hope you dont do anything silly you will have a bubs in your hands in no time. you have my total support.

love susan

[maddysmummy]

oh big hugs to you hope it all works out!! helps when you have a great partner to get you though this hard time..

me 28 dad 25
DDnovember 06

[britkane8]

it is hard and all those emotions are normal.i did exactly the same but i have got back on feet now and my dp and i are ttc as of now again.

[ElleJay]

Thanks everyone.

You see, me and my partner didn't exactly plan this one, and during the hassles I've been having with this one, he's said 'We'll be more careful this time'

After I went to the doctors yesterday, he's been saying 'I'm not going anywhere, there's plenty of time in the future that we've got to have kids.'
I think through all this, he's realised he does want to have kids with me, and so he's probably thought 'You know what? Whatever happens, happens'

It also doesn't help when he tells me that his ex-gf miscarried three times when she was with him, so that makes me feel even worse, because I wanted to be different this time.

I'll let people know what the blood test results are in and what they say

[britkane8]

lizjessie it will eventualy happen just be patiant and your time will come if you ever want to chat just let me know.support is the best thing.

love susan

[munchy]

Lizjessie

hi hun just wanted to say i am thinking of you at the difficult time and i hope it all works out for you i have my fingers crossed for you let us no how you get on.

Munchy xxx

[ElleJay]

Thanks again everyone.

Got the test results back and my hcg levels have halved, which is very conclusive in the fact that I did miscarry.
I'm utterly devestated, but life goes on

[mrsmac]

Its such a terrible time Lizjessie but it does get better trust me. You have lots of support here so post away when you feel down, there are always people here to listen and be a shoulder to cry on.
BTW like your name! My DD is called Jessica Elizabeth

[Acria]

LizJessie - I'm so sorry for your loss. It is a difficult time, but it does become easier to live with, and in time you come to remember your baby/pregnancy with a smile rather than tears As you say, your partner has now realised he does want kids with you, so if nothing else, there is a positive you can take

Post anytime, there's always heaps of support and understanding.

Lisa xx

[ElleJay]

Again, thankyou all so much for all the support.

This is why I love being a member on this forum

[Pink+blue]

Sorry to hear about your loss. I find out tommorrow my Hcg levels because of "threatened miscarriage" too. I guess all you can do is keep trying. Good luck.

[mrsaym]

Liz

Sending you my thoughts and best wishes, yes BB is a great site to talk to others ladies (and men) who have been through the same thing or know of someone who has.

I hear what you are saying about this pg wasn't planned as we were in the same boat. I can't wait to TTC very soon.

Good luck and see you round BB..

[ElleJay]

Sorry to hear about your loss. I find out tommorrow my Hcg levels because of "threatened miscarriage" too. I guess all you can do is keep trying. Good luck.

Good luck with everything! sending lots of and

I can't help but feel that it was my fault that it was a miscarriage. I feel like I didn't go to the doctors early enough to keep an eye on anything.
I just really feel like its my fault.

[munchy]

Liz

Please dont feel like its your fault because its not there is nothing anyone could have done even if you went to docs before they still would not have been able to do anything when my sister M/C at 14 weekas they just sent her home and said let nature do its course which i thought was awful as when you are going through something like that you want to feel something is being done to help or make things better. but i cant say it enough dont blame yourself i lost my little girl at 23 wks and blamed myself for so long the thing was she had a diessease which meant she would never survive outside the whomb so i had to have a needle through my tummy to stop her heart and i still cant forgive myself for it although i no it was for the best i still feel like i should have protected her from all the doctors and told them to stay away from me but i think its the worst feeling blamming yourself so just remember it was not your fault. sending you lots of :hugs: take care of yourself.

Munchy xxx

[britkane8]

im so sorry to hear hun keep ur chin up and we r all here for u

love susan