Miscarriage/Loss General Discussion #3

Hi Everyone - how are we all this evening? I rang the clinic today, going by their records I'm Day 29 today and still no sign of AF so I've had enough. I'm going for a blood test tomorrow to see what is going on. Considering i have a known luteal phase defect this is ridiculous, one extreme to the other - it's now 11 weeks since my D&C and no AF!! In better news though all my other blood tests have come back normal, along with DH's and my AMH has increased! Only a little, from 1.1 last November to 2.6 this time - just goes to show it can fluctuate and they don't know as much about it as they thought. Like I said, it's still way lower than it should be but at least it's gone up a bit, I'm happy to hang onto any positive hope I can!!

What's happening with everyone else?
xx

Hi again - update: so I had my blood test yesterday only to be told by the nurse that I should be expecting my period any day. Woke up this morning, went to the loo and guess what, AF is here!! Could not believe it ha ha. Never been so excited to see the witch..........of course I'm now sitting here in agony, painful and heavy - I guess 3 months has to make up for lost time! But, it's so good to see fresh red blood flow instead of brown old spotting blood, makes me feel new ha ha ha - how sad I have become! So, I'm Day 31 or thereabouts going off their records which is a miracle for me as I have this so called luteal phase defect, so have been busy googling about progesterone deficiencies and if your body can correct them. I would be super stoked if my body has re-set so to speak but it could just be a freaky roll on affect from the miscarriage/D&C so I will wait and see what happens this cycle.

So as of tomorrow I am officially tracking again, can't try this month though as they are a new clinic for me so want to see what's going on for themselves. But it's one step closer to trying again next month hopefully!

Where is everybody anyway, I am boring you all? lol

Hi all, I had a miscarriage on Monday night/ Tuesday :(

Hi jlk - I'm so sorry to hear of your most recent loss, I'm 3 months out from my 2nd loss this year, 4th in 12 months - apologies for my excitedness in my post above yours but it's been a rather hellish few months and am only just now feeling like I have moved on properly. I hope you can feel the same very soon but in the meantime we are here to listen and offer cyber hugs xx

Alison I am stoked that your af arrive yay! (not the whole bleeding and pain) but knowing where you are at now, it's such a relief hey! Hopefully the last of the crazy roller coaster ride our bodies go through with a m/c.


How are all the other girls going? I hope you all are going well xx

Jlk- I am so sorry for your loss xx
It's an emotional time I suffered my 2nd in may, still hard now two of my close friends from school are expecting same time I am so forever thinking what ifs so much, but having others to talk to helps.

Afm- not much to report I have stopped bleeding though! (big omg moment!) maybe things have changed its the first time for a long time I have a normal cycle so far. Certain I have or will ovulate shortly (last weekend cm increasing but not as crazy as last month!) dtd over the weekend then I got the flu dh got the kids bug so no more since weekend.
Dh and I keep talking we said we wanted to try for a winter baby and maybe we should. Men are weird he never gave an offical answer just jumps in bed lol!
I am not on any pill or implant as horrid side effects, so I keep dtd on safe days but dh ruins that as well he doesn't care! Ahh just once I would like him to say yep let's go for it. He did mention he was looking at the newborn photos of ds3 just minutes old and goo'ing over them, he is such a clucky man atm! My thoughts are everywhere atm, I wish things would happen smoothly for me (even dh's family has joked about me and my family's badluck run but sadly it's the truth our life is like a soapy lol)

Hi Ashie - thanks mate! And yay to no bleeding and double yay to maybe having a normal cycle, I am the same! wouldn't it be awesome if the pain and suffering we have had leads to something positive by having a normal cycle! I would be so happy if I could conceive without having to take progesterone suppositories and this pill and that pill but we shall see! Your life sounds like it mimics mine, we have had the worst year this year, my FIL has terminal cancer - was diagnosed back in February and has been having specialist treatment over in Sydney but it's just to buy him more time not cure him, I lost my beloved 16 year old pooch and I've had the 2 later 1st tri miscarriages. Seriously, you start to laugh after a while as things start to become more a joke. I have often said my life is like an episode of Days of Our Lives at the moment! If only it were more like Bold and the Beautiful full of sexy men ha ha ha ha ha. Anyway, as long as we can keep our spirits up and find the funny side in things I think we're doing ok. Just go for it I say, DH sounds like he wants to and you know men, they don't communicate like us - I'd take his reaction as the green light so go for it girl! xxxx

12dpo today and because Im a masochist, I tested. Ive been a giant pain lately and on the verge of tears every 5 minutes. It was +. So now the wait starts again. Im so pessimistic its ridiculous, just dont know how to ignore it until something happens, whether its bleeding and the end or a surprise successful scan in 3 weeks. I dont want it to consume me.

Oh Freya I know :hug: hang in there, I know it's hard and it sucks.

Hi Freya - well for fear of getting your hopes up I'm going to go out on a limb and say congratulations! I know I know it's hard to be excited, BUT and I mean BUT, there is always a chance it could work out for once hey! I'm trying to be more positive about things and let's face it, our bad luck has to end eventually. So, I'm going to put my neck out here and say that I have a good feeling about this one. I hope and pray with all my heart that this one is a sticky one xxxxxxxxxx

Hi everybody!

Freya - oh my goodness, you have my congratulations as well, how is it all going now?

jlk - so sorry for your news xo Seems to be so many of us in hear who had mc around the 9 week mark (as I see from your sig.) My last was 8w6d, I hope you are doing ok and taking care of yourself. Big hugs.

ashie - yay for a normal cycle! Sounds like a great sign to me!

Alison - hey hun how are you going? How is the tracking going? Is it driving you crazy not to be trying? It would me haha! I know exactly what you mean about just now feeling you can move on properly. I have had a couple of afs, but my cycles were not normal those months, lots of spotting and irregular bleeding, and I didn't really feel myself until this current cycle which is pretty normal. I think your new dr and clinic sound great and I hope they are the solution for you, I have a feeling it is going to happen for you before too long now.

Well, I'm in the tww, and it has been the first cycle I feel normal about, so fx for me! It makes me O.O to realise I have been utd 6 times now... and it is always different, some times I get symtoms, sometimes not, this last time I was preg I even had implantation spotting which I'd never had before, and no matter what I think it is usually the opposite lol, so will just have to wait this month out and see what happens. I do long to be preg again, that's for sure.

Big hugs all xx

Hi Smamfa, I have been wondering how you are going! How exciting to be in the 2WW, I will cross everything I possibly can for you sweets. Although at the moment it's not much, I played netball for the first time in 5 years Monday night and OMG I cannot move ha ha ha - soooo unfit. It's your turn now so I will send lots and lots of baby vibes your way, how exciting!

AFM - I am doing well, have been trying to lose some of the weight I've gained over the last 8 months of treatment. Put on 7 kgs, urgh - 3 down so far which is better than nothing but I still have a few to go before I will feel like my old self again. I am in my first tracking cycle, yes it is frustrating not being able to try but I want them to know what's going on and given last month I had a 31 day cycle and this month would you believe is looking like a possibility for another normal cycle it's just as well! WTF is going on! In a good way of course but how weird is this. 18 months I've had 21-23 day cycles with spotting, well I didn't get any spotting prior to my first AF (although it took 3 months to get here) and I had bloods this morning and will find out any moment when I will be ovulating but on Monday I was day 11 and she said I was a good 4 days off ovulating - I usually ovulate day 12. So she said I'm on track for an average/normal cycle - so if my luteal phase is decent again I'm going to celebrate. Is it possible a 2nd D&C/miscarriage has rejigged my hormones???? Anyway only time will tell. DH has to go back for a repeat test tomorrow, his homocysteine came back elevated which is basically Vitamin D and can lead to higher miscarriage rates, interesting!!! Maybe it's not just me after all! Anyway thank goodness if it is it's something that can be easily fixed with extra vitamins, it is odd given he's always been super good with his vitamins, actually, he's better than me at remembering!!!!!!

How is everyone else going? xx

Freya- congrats Hun! I have everything crossed that things goes smoothly this time. Keep us updated xx

Smamfa- I hope your tww goes quickly. I can honestly say every pregnancy is different, my first m/c I was so sick! I usually get morning sickness but it was happening before I realized I was pregnant and just got worse. With ds1 and ds3 I got cramping alot but ds2 and the recent m/c I had hardly any!

Alison- Yay for regular cycles! I'm the same my cycle was well off but I am on cd 4! A 27 day cycle which has not happened for a long time. I thought I mc would mess things up more not sought them. Hoping my af behaves like last month. I am glad things are going better!

Afm- my cycle was 27 days yay! On cd 4 and first month of ttc again (I talked to dh about it all he just happy to dtd lol) but he did mention how the last mc upset him, he said its only sunk in that we were expecting again (was a suprise concieving) and was excited and then days later we lost him or her. so I think he may be excited about another baby (happy dance!)
So far af this month was very heavy today lighter (thank god!) heavier than my mc?!
We did say months ago we wanted to try for a winter baby? I love winter clothing for little ones!

Alison - yeah I think it can TOTALLY rejig your hormones, and I will be so stoked for you if it is giving you 'better' cycles iykwim. My first pregnancy (ds1) 'fixed up' the little issues I'd been having and my cycles were great after that. I was utd with ds2 (after an early mc first) when I was still in this 'good' window if that makes sense. I've been kicking myself cos my cycles were great again after ds2... then over time they gradually got a bit mucked up again (spotting started up again etc) and I was thinking I had missed my fertile post-birth window. It took me ages of nothing to get my first chem, but then that was quickly followed by the 2nd chem and then the month after by my last preg... so I think the chems got my body back into the zone. My cycles of course haven't been normal yet after the mc apart from this one (almost) so I don't know if it is helping this time or not. I am ovulating slightly later than I was, I had been down to day12 before, this time is day 13/14. So I completely believe it (after that long-winded explanation lol!)

Ashie - big yay for ttc and nicer cycles! I'll be sending goodluck in your direction as well :)

HCG levels at 5 weeks gestation..............................1660! I nearly cried. The GP was so happy she couldnt stop smiling! I am nearly afraid to think this might actually be happening :cry:

congrats Freya!!!!!! amazing :leap: lets hope the HCG just keeps rising :D

Freya- yay what fantastic numbers! I am so happy for you!!

Afm- nothing to report suffering headaches atm (think maybe cause of af) been happening for the last few days. Dh and I have a game plan this month lol going to dtd from now til close to o and stop for a few days. Dh is certainly not complaining he is very keen pmsl!

Eta- just went to the bathroom as something wasn't right! I think I may of mc again! Looked like the last mc but smaller (as long as one of my fingers) would explain the heavy bleeding and cramping though.

Freya - wishing and hoping and praying like a mad woman that this is the one!

Freya - yay congrats hoping the numbers keep doing that!!! xx

Smamfa - hey there cycle buddy ha ha........I can't believe how we are so similar all the time! I used to O on day 12, this month, wait for it, day 14!!! My new clinic are so much more thorough and I'm having bloods every few days to keep a check on this luteal phase but so far my progesterone is looking normal wtf!!! I am trying not to get excited though as I'm CD20, 6dpo today and I am feeling a little hungrier and slightly crampy so I will be so disappointed if AF shows early like she used to after things looking so good initially. More bloods tomorrow so I guess time will tell.

Ashie - oh no, so you think you were pregnant and you're having another miscarriage?? Or did I read that incorrectly xxxx