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Oh Alison, I'm sorry to hear about your beautiful fur baby. It's so sad when they leave us, big hugs honey :hug: In the mean time, enjoy your little break hun. Sometimes we need that xx
Hello to all my other beautiful friends in here, I hope you are healing well physically and emotionally :grouphug:
Alison - so sorry to hear about your woofa. Big hugs for you. Life has been putting you through the wringer lately hun. Hope you get some relaxing time before your appt, and hope you get to be 'selfish' and do a whole stack of things just about you - even if they are frivolous or whatever. xox
me4ever - yeah I know what you mean hun. Go gently. You'll be there again for sure, and hopefully it won't take long.
ladybirdflies - your poor dh (you too of course that goes without saying). Glad he is beginning to open up about it and get additional support too. I think if that happened my dh would want to give up ttc, but it is different for us we already have two lil ones. I wouldn't want to, so it would be a hard time.
ashie - so they don't know what causes your bleeding problem? And you bleed/spot the whole cycle? Did you have the same issue when ttc your boys? I used to have a lot of spotting before af that was caused by endo (mild) but that was only half my cycle, not all of it.
Big Hi to everyone else too. xxxx
Smamfa- it started after having ds1 had many tests and a d&c they just put it as unknown. I spot for at least half the month I did have down to 2 weeks but m/c has it all over the place now.
Tried most pills etc but found being off the pill was better. I would think after 3 c sections I would have some scarring maybe endo too but you know trying to find time to be checked out is hard specially with dh working we do need every cent.
Afm- bleeding has gone pretty much stopped the last 24 hours thank god! Last week has been crazy with weather, sick kids, and bleeding got worse just gushing not too heavy but just couldn't put my feet up abd stress makes my bleeding worse (I noticed with my af a while ago)
Stressed so much I got a bad stye which last a few days poor dh got bad looks as it looked like I had my eye beaten lol.
Still showing +I've hpt's but just going to wait it out maybe the hcg levels are going to take a while as they were higher than last time. So still been suffering bouts of nausea here and there.
But I am hoping it's the last of the bleeding dh is getting ummm well has an itch lol (secretly so do I) pmsl!
lol Ashie I was just thinking last night it's been 14 weeks since we've DTD - DH hasn't even asked thank goodness as it's been at the bottom of my list!!
AFM - I had my D&C follow-up yesterday, don't know why I bothered as my results from the pathology haven't come back yet, it's looking like tomorrow or next week. I do think I'm ovulating though as yesterday and today I have my usual stitch pains, it's taken a little longer for my cycles to get back on track this time but I may have a normal 4 week cycle which I don't normally get without progesterone supplementation. I'd have been 12 weeks today and I got a message from a friend saying she's 13 weeks pregnant, total surprise, wasn't trying yada yada yada, awesome thanks.
Hi all,
I have just experienced my first miscarriage. I started spotting last week and had a scan at 10 weeks showing bubs only measuring 7 weeks. I had my D&C on Tuesday. I'm just wondering if its normal not to experience much bleeding after a D&C? I've had hardly any loss so far and I'm feeling pretty good. So I'm just wondering if its normal or should I expect more? Basically I'm not really bleeding, just spotting a little. Is that normal?
Thanks
Hi BMW - so sorry you have to join us here, it's not a nice place for us to be in one respect but the girls in here are all so supportive and lovely. I've had 2 D&C's this year, my first in January I didn't bleed much, just a bit of light bleeding/spotting for 7 days. But my most recent one, 3 weeks ago I had a little bit on the day of the procedure, then nothing for 3 days and then quite heavy bleeding for a few days before light bleeding/spotting for another 7 days. I think it's all different and depends on how your body deals with it at the time. I was 8 and 9 weeks respectively. I am glad you are feeling pk considering but it is something that only time will heal completely, emotionally and physically. xx
BMW, I am so sorry you have found yourself in here hun :hug: I was doing a wee bit of stalking in your thread the last few weeks and was so happy for you to get your bfp, it just sucks things didn't go to plan. To answer your question, I didn't have much bleeding after my d & c, the bleeding was lighter than my normal AF, and lasted for about a week and then it stopped and then it started again for a few days, a few tiny clots but nothing major. It sounds like yours is not too bad, I think the emotional healing is harder. Big hugs sweetie xox
Hi Alison, ashie, smamfa, ladybirdflies, me4ever, deedles, and anyone else I missed. I am gearing myself for IVF cycle number 4, and am feeling slightly nervous but excited. So here we go again, don't really know what to expect, but a few more good eggs would be a great start!
b xxx
Hello BMW, as the others have said, welcome to our group, I am sorry that you had to come here, but at least you have a place of complete understanding and support to come to... and all the ladies in here are lovely!
I had a D&C a few months ago now, the bleeding was very light afterwards, like my period was ending. After a few days it became a tiny bit heavier and then when back to light, I bled for about a week. An increase in bleeding can mean that there is something still in there so if it does increase or you get a temp be sure to ring and ask for medical advice. I also found that if I wasn't resting enough the bleeding would increase. So be sure to rest, eat and drink well. As far as your emotional part goes, I hope you feel supported to talk or not talk, and stay true to how you are feeling as you walk this path.
Miss B- I totally am holding your hand every step of the way with this one, I am already holding my breath in anticipation for you... I hope you don't feel too anxious, please come in for support and updates if you can. I really feel so ready to try again, but have been told to wait another month, so I can live vicariously through you ok!!!!
AFM- like I said above, I am feeling great, my energy levels are the best they have been for a while and I am feeling ever so ready to start trying again. My DH is still very dubious, and we are being open and honest as we wonder what our future holds for us.
Big hello to everybody xx
Hi Miss B - how exciting! I might be joining you on the IVF road come July/August, I might need to ask some questions, I'm a bit scared of going to this next level, have heard so many things to put me off!
Hi Ladybirdflies - I am having a break too, no point risking things again, getting pregnant isn't my problem, keeping it is so I am having to wait until I can start this new lot of treatment. I am quietly enjoying the break to be honest, no blood tests, no HCG level testing, etc etc........plus I really want to lose some of the kgs I've put on since starting this road of fertility treatment, urgh! Just need to find the motivation......................
Hope everyone else is travelling well.
Ladybirdflies, it would be so awesome to be a belly buddy again with you hun! I know we weren't buddies for that long :( I'm so glad you have all your energy back hun, I feel like I have too, and have been waiting patiently for this cycle. Thanks for holding my hand lovely, I will really need it I think! I'll do the same for you when you're TTC :)
Alison, I'm glad you're having a great break from TTC, I'm sure it will do you a world of good hun. And IVF really isn't that scary hun if you have to travel down that road. I found it pretty good but I guess some people react OK to it all, and some people struggle physically and emotionally. I will be there for you if you ever need me hun. Big hugs lovely!
Hi Alison,
I can't help but ask a question if I may??
I don't have a problem getting pregnant either, that has been easy. But I have had two miscarriages the last two times, one in Dec last year and one in April this year. The Dr said they wait for three before doing anything about it. And I can't help but wonder should I seek some more advice before trying again? I have three healthy little girls, the youngest is two, I wonder why all of the sudden I can't seem to stay pregnant???
Until then, apparently drinking raspberry leaf tea and nettle tea are very nurturing for the womb, so glug glug glug, it can't hurt right??
MissB- I was writing the same time as you!!! Yes, I would love to be part of your journey again, something has us in the same place at the same time twice now, so hopefully the journey forward has us both blossoming bellies together... x
Hi Ladybirdflies - ask away! I had 2 early miscarriages within a few months last year, I had no problems falling with my little girl 2.5 years ago, took me 3 months after being on the pill for 19 years. Because of my age and the 2 m/c's I went to an FS, I had a feeling something was up because my cycles were getting shorter, my luteal phase was sitting on around 10/11 days, sometimes 9. All the testing revealed I have low progesterone, almost non existent in the 2nd half of my cycle - without that there is no way I can sustain a pregnancy. The mc in January turned out to be chromosomal after finally getting the progesterone under control with supplementation (typical) and this last one looks like being the same, but awaiting results so will let you know. I guess you need to look at a) are your cycles changing, I was having spotting leading up to AF, I ovulate around day 12 but was getting AF anywhere from day 21-23 on average. Some people also have clotting issue which effects implantation or sustaining an pregnancy, so they also had me on blood thinners which I don't think is necessary for me. Basically, because of my age I demanded looking into things - oh and I also found out I have a low egg count but my first 2 losses were within a day or two of my BFP's so around the 4 week mark hence why I couldn't have any testing done. These last 2 stuck around due to the progesterone so it enabled me to be tested. I think it depends on your age as to whether they take you seriously or not, but bottom line is if you want to delve into it, go for it, demand it, if I have learnt one thing it's to trust my instincts! Let me know if you have any other questions, I've been at this for 13 months like this, I don't want you to be too. In a nutshell, my first advice would be to get your progesterone levels checked in the 2nd half of your cycle, that can be a major player in not being able to hang onto a pregnancy and is easily fixed, if you get pregnant again beforehand, as soon as you get your BFP get your levels done and if they are low they can pop you onto supplementation to correct it. I was told most chromosomal defects will miscarry around the 6/7 week mark, that is when things started going pear shaped in my last 2, but because I was on the progesterone they held in for a little longer than they normally would have, not sure if that helps you? xx
Hi BMW - how are you holding up? Sending you big hugs (sending big hugs to everyone) - I know you'll need some... I have been spotting since the D&C last Friday. Then since Wednesday by the end of the day I start cramping and bleeding and in the morning it's back to spotting again. Am curious how long that will go for. I'm glad that it's all behind and am trying to focus on the future.
Alison - Like MissB was saying - IVF is really not that scary, I was really against starting with IVF, but we've gone through it once and it brought us our first BFP ever! (even if it didn't hold... It was great to be able to experience it..) Also that month flew by and I expected there would be more needles involved.
Ladybirdflies - I'm glad you're feeling more energetic and better than ever.
Smamfa and Ashie and anyone I've forgotten - How are you keeping up?
AFM - I can't believe it's already a week since the D&C. It's been a week of ups and downs (had my Birthday in between) and was especially sad that day, as we're about to break the news to the family :( The storms and depressing weather haven't helped much. Luckily I'm slowly starting to feel better. Today I had my first blood test again to see what the HCG is doing, am curious how long it will take to break down. Anyhow big hugs for everyone and take care!
me4ever, Happy belated birthday hun! I wish it was a happier one for you this year :hug: I'll be thinking of you as you break the news to your family, no doubt that will be hard. Huge hugs hunni xoxox
Hi me4ever - I had my birthday on Tuesday, happy birthday to us huh! Wishing you all the best when breaking it to your family xx
AFM - well I got my pathology results from the D&C, surprising.............normal chromosomes - another girl. So, I should be happy it's not chromosomal again but now I'm sad that she was normal but something else caused it. I am wondering if it was the blood clot, or my progesterone again. I guess I can ask all these questions when I see the new specialist next month. Made the mistake of watching One Born Every Minute last night, just depressed me, ho hum.
Happy birthday to me4ever and Alison, hope this year ahead is filled with marvellous things for both of you. I have a feeling it will be!
Yay for another ivf cycle soon MissB, I'm excited for you!
ladybirdflies - I don't know how old you are, but if you are older I think you could easily push to investigate mc before having to have a third one. If you are younger, it would probably be harder but you could still find a dr to investigate if you are really firm I think. I've had 3 in a row now (2 were only chemical) (had another inbetween my boys), and I have a referral to a recurrant mc specialist - which is good to have in my pocket but it doesn't *feel* to my like the ~9week mc is for the same reasons as my 2 chemical. I am thinking I am just unlucky and my age (40) doesn't help. However I may well make the appt.
BMW - so sorry to hear that. Big hugs.
I have finally stopped bleeding! (well, almost, still a bit of faint spotting today). I've had af this last week (came straight on top of the bleeding I was still having post-mc). Was probably my heaviest af ever but I suppose that makes sense. So hopefully my body is geared up to O soon (usually cd12 so it doesn't take long). We are trying again this month which I am looking forward to, but I think I am going to be pretty miserable if I don't fall again immediately (and I probably won't of course.) I'll have to remember how to dtd of course - it's been a while!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh Smamfa - I'll keep my fingers crossed for you... And if we all do, I bet you'll be pregnant before you know it ;)
Alison - we not only have our Birthdays the same week, but we share one actually :) It was my Birthday on Tuesday too! I hope you got very spoiled, like me.
We've already told my partner's family, as they live close by and some where part of what was happening it was not too hard. My family is overseas, so it's a bit harder. I told my sister in law on my Birthday, and she gave birth just this morning to their fourth child... I'm happy for them. Don't know when and if I'll tell the rest of the family. I'm considering telling my parents as my mother had a m/c at some stage, but I yet have to find the right time. (They were away on holidays on the day I found out and are not back yet..)
Thanks for the B'day wishes. I hope everyone will take care and relax on the weekend, so soon we'll be ready to take on the world again!
Oh wow how awesome is that, 12th for us both Happy Birthday for Tuesday, I got spoilt too yay for us. I realised the day after it was the 12.6.12 hee hee