Miscarriage/Loss General Discussion #3

It's quiet in here, hope you are all doing well.

I am still bleeding... it's very off and on. I think it might be stopping and then it starts again. It is not really like normal af bleeding - it's like it is slower if that makes sense, and I get a mix of colours, sometimes pink, or red, or brown, or all of them all mixed in at once, often very mucousy looking? I wish it would finish up... it has been 2.5 weeks now that I have been bleeding (just over 2 since the actual mc.) Has anyone else been like this in the past? I think my other one (at 5w3) was just like a longer heavier af and wouldn't have gone much past a week and a bit. This is different and I must say I am getting over it!

Smamfa - With my first D&C I bled for 8 days and then spotted on and off for the rest of that cycle. That cycle was 38 days. It was so annoying. I was passing clots in the first 8 days and some days the bleeding was just gushing. It was really horrible. I had that rainbow of colours as well. I don't know how many times I rang my OB in a panic cause I didn't know what was "normal".

Hi girls I hope everyone is doing well.

Smamfa my first miscarriage was like that but with my unknown bleeding problem (spot or bleed most days it was hard to tell wheb it stops or starts. Very frustrating I know, and I really hope the bleeding disappears soon hun xx

Afm- this miscarriage is so different to my last! I stopped bleeding literally bang on a week from the day it happened! Which is not like me my history is I used to bleed each day of the year I have gone off the pill and gotten it down to half a month so for bleeding to stop has me out of whack (was supposed to be bleeding for a while as their was a good amount of blood last week)
Still suffering symptoms (needing to pee often, sick on and off again, still getting cramps like af is coming, headaches, and more clear/white discharge) its almost 2 weeks since we lost button I thought I would feel more normal by now. Going to take a test this week (doc said it was a waste of fine for hcg bloods so had no follow up bloods) to see myself what is going on, if it's +ive I'll head back and demand to have bloods and check out why things arnt normal yet since it was an early pregnancy loss I would of thought like last time I would be back to normal quickly.
I still on a rollercoaster of emotions the fact still suffering symptoms which I wouldn't complain about if my lil button was still here. Just hate the words you can try again later atm ttc again won't be for a while assuming things go to plan (at least a years wait)! Anyway sorry to rant on I got to get back to DS3 poor lil bub caught a cold and has been off foods and having temps and not sleeping well hopefully won't affect his recovery from surgery he had 2 weeks ago for hypospadias, swelling finally going down and looking better each day.

Smamfa, my second miscarriage was like yours. I bled on and off for 9 weeks. Lasted so long that I actually thought I was pregnant again due to some symptoms popping back up and a positive hpt. Was just left over hormones. I also had awful runs the whole time too. I hope yours finishes up soon. I actually used acupuncture 3 months afteit my hcg returned to zero to get my cycle back on track. Resulting in my current pregnancy.
It's awful when you just want to move on and get on with things when your body won't follow suit.

Hi girls an update here, bought a digital and tested positive saying 2-3 which means 4 to 5 weeks. Literally feeling down I think it's time to go back and get bloods to see what's going on. I would of thought being not overly high hcg levels (compared to someone who may be 8 or 12 weeks it would of been gone within 2 weeks or not even shown a +ive on a digital (only tested +ive once on a digital with ds3 other two I didn't!) still having some cramping like af is popping by, I wish I was able to get into my ob, he is booked out for ages so stuck with the other ob who think hcg counts are a waste of time (maybe ill get him to scan again and see if their is anything left behind or blood waiting to expell)

Ashie - I too would be heading back to find out what's going on. Your levels must have been really high to still be showing 2-3 after 2 weeks. Ca you just go to your GP and request a BT to see what your levels are?

Hi girls,
I'm joining you today as I was diagnosed with missed miscarriage this morning. It was my first pregnancy after IVF and from the start things haven't been as it should have. HCG was very slowly rising, bub was 2 weeks behind in measurements so my ob wasn't very optimistic. Last scan last week the heart was beating very strong still, this morning, nothing, not a single beat :( Officially I'm 11 weeks, bub measured about 8 and a bit weeks today. I'm going in for a curette tomorrow as I wasn't keen to wait for bleeding to start by itself. Have been following your stories over the last couple of weeks and have been sad reading them. Hope you girls are alright!

Me4Ever - No No NO. I'm so sorry. I hate that this is happening to you. I hope all goes well tomorrow so you can heal and move on out of limbo land. :hug:

Hugs I am so sorry :(

Oh me4ever I am so so sorry.
It is such a hard time to go through and I hope you have all the support you need.
I hope tomorrow goes nice and smooth and that your on the road to recovery in no time.

Yesterday for me was 2 weeks post d&c and I am finnaly feeling like myself again.
Sending you lots of love and :hug::hug:

Ashie hun, I hope that you find out what is going on so you start to feel better soon. I think that going to the doc is a very good idea. Xx

Me4ever, I am so, so sorry darling, I had my fingers crossed tightly for you over the last few weeks. Go gently hun, it's such a devastating time. I wish this didn't happen to you. We are all here for you hunni :hug::comfort: xoxoxox

smamfa, Deedles, ashie and Alison, thinking of you ladies and sending much love while you heal :hug:xoxoxo

Me4ever I am so sorry for your loss xxx

Afm- I had some spotting this morning? So don't know if it's still the mc lingering or af?!
Ring the docs again and fx I can get an appt.
Suprised atm What are my hcg levels being they were over 2000 I thought they would be gone or only a tiny bit left. Still +ive on normal tests too.
Heart sank last night, ds1 was whimpering in his sleep saying that he wanted his sister (he doesn't have a sister?) I cant say to him no you'll most likely never have a sister so I just say maybe oneday? It's something he goes on about alot lately. We are looking at going for a weekend away with the kids and explained to him that it just us mummy daddy, you Ds2 and 3. Then he replied how about baby sister? Told him you don't have a baby sister, he replied he wanted mummy to have a baby sister in my tummy! God this kid is so clever! He didn't know we were pg but I think he senses!
Oh an upside kids gave me a sleep in woohoo! Feeling more awake today after the lack of sleep I've been having.

me4ever - Oh I am so so sorry to hear your news hunny. I am really sad that you are joining us here, it is not fair and not how it should be. I hope after tomorrow you can start the slow healing process :comfort:

ashie - yeah I'd agree getting your hcg levels done to check they are falling properly. Glad you got a sleep in! Sleep has been a rarety around as everyone has been on and off sick for 3 weeks.

MissB thanks for the thoughts. How are you going with ttc etc?

Deedles - glad you are starting to feel like yourself again. I am looking forward to getting there too, it will help when I am not sick and also when the bleeding stops. Is your cycle starting to come back or is it too early to tell?

porshe and ashie and rach - thanks for letting me know about your bleeding. Looks like the answer is, it could be anything! I really would like to ttc without waiting a cycle (did anyone here do that?), but I won't if I am still bleeding or spotting, I figure that is my body not being ready yet. But come on body!

love and hugs to all xx

With my bleeding problem I didn't know when I could ttc again so we just dtd as usual took 2 or 3 months after the mc to concieve ds3.
I've heard many of women falling pregnant within the first cycle so it is ok as long as you feel ready and that you feel that your body is going well. Big hugs Hun, I desperately want to ttc again but know I have to wait if I could I would be off dtd now pmsl! (abit happier as ds3 has been 100% himself today since being unwell so good to have happy boy back)

Hi Everyone,
I have been having a bit of a read and catching up. And my heart sinks when new people come into this group. Each person is experiencing a struggle which at times can be so dark. I hope you all feel support and love as you journey through this time.

I am going pretty well, physcially I am finally feeling back to normal energy, I have never been so flattened in my life, I guess losing 2 lts of blood will do that to you!!! Now that I am better DH has started to process what he saw and experienced, and he is totally traumatised. He can't stop seeing those images of me in ER as they bagged me and saved my life. I know the look on his face when I came back to, is one I will never forget, but I guess I did not realise how deeply this has affected him until now.
It's a tricky time, because I am starting to feel like talking about trying again in the next few months and he is petrified. I guess we can only go one step at a time, I would certainly not want to push that onto him when he is clearly not ready. He is getting support elsewhere to help him process it all which is great to know he is doing something about his grief and shock.

Love and thoughts with you all.

x

Hiya, am home again from hospital and am surprised at how I'm feeling. Definitely lost that pregnant feeling - and now of course am kinda bleeding like a normal AF (not too much though luckily). Am feeling empty and missing the fact that there was something growing inside me. You probably know what I mean ;). Oh well, one day we'll hopefully be there again, fingers crossed. For now am taking it easy and might have a break from TTC. We'll see.
Hope you girls are keeping up alright. Sending you all hugs and thanking you for your support! You girls rock!

Hi everyone, I'm sorry I've been MIA the last couple of weeks. Feels weird and wrong saying welcome to the new girls, it's lovely to meet you but I wish it wasn't in this thread if you know what I mean. Sounds like a few of us have miscarried at the same time.

Hi Smamfa - have been thinking of you often. It's been 2.5 week since my last D&C and I only stopped bleeding 5 days ago, had a good 10 days of bleeding. The day after the D&C I had nothing for 3 days and then it came on really heavy for 2 days and then went back to light bleeding/spotting but like you different colours, old blood, fresh blood, weird. It didn't really end until 5 days ago and then yesterday I had a bit of spotting, I am day 25 of my cycle today though and I usually have short cycles because of my luteal phase defect so day 23 is the norm for me. Hopefully it at least means my body is getting back on track quickly again. My D&C back in January was a bit different, I had bleeding for 7 days and then got AF again bang on my usual cycle time so hopefully my body knows how to repair quickly. I have to say though I'm enjoying not stressing about bad heart beats, bleeding, fluctuating progesterone, morning sickness, tiredness etc. Although it really took me a good week to get over the anesthetic this time, it really knocked me around. I had my hair done Friday and had to have a good couple of inches chopped off as my hair was so dry, the hairdresser thinks it's likely the anesthetic taking it's toll, twice in as many months and all. She's a friend of mine hence why she knows.

AFM - well as if things haven't been crappy enough I had to say goodbye to my beautiful 16 year old 4 legged doggie on Thursday so of course I've spent the last few days crying, again, it's all I do lately. My little girl keeps asking me if I'm ok, she's going to think her mum's a loony soon. My appointment with the new fert specialist is for 19th July so just enjoying the break for now, emotionally and physically need it.

Hugs and kisses to everyone and hoping you're all ok xx